• Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org
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    3 months ago

    Yup. the sexual loneliness epidemic is easing up, because we’re all fighting back to ‘normal’. But ask most men this simple question: how many non-sexual friends do you have in your life that you communicate with more than once a week?

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      3 months ago

      i think a simple “what do you feel right now” would stump half the population.

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          3 months ago

          The predifined “fine” is either a real “i don’t know “ or “it’s too socially dangerous for me to say what I really feel “ imho

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            3 months ago

            Or even “I think it would be nice to talk to you in more detail, but it’s really difficult to summarize my entire mental state in a short sentence, so to avoid you and I the headache, I’m just gonna say fine.”

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      3 months ago

      Is it normal to talk to friends more than once a week? That seems like a strange standard imo. Even my besties and I touch base maybe once or twice a month at most, and see eachother once every 4 to 6 months.

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        That sounds normal to me, but it’s worth noting that when we were under Covid lockdown, I didn’t understand how so many people freaked out about it. I’ve always been sucky at social interactions and pretty much always felt lonely as a baseline. It’s like I’d been training for lockdown my entire life. Seeing others lose their minds trying to live the way I’ve always lived was quite awkward.

        Which means for many people, your/my standards for social contact are way too infrequent. I don’t know what an average measurement would be, but it’s clear that our “normal” can’t be most people’s “normal.”