I have found lots of guys don’t want to date anyone as tall or taller than them (or one guy who fetishized it, which was so not better) it’s certainly not just women driving this preference.
But can’t say that being tall as a lady has ever really kept me from finding partners, and the short guys I know in real life also do fine, so I think this is usually more of a weak preference not a criteria.
because most people believe in trad gender roles. man is big and tall and strong. woman is smaller and weaker.
It’s funny though - a guy my size is still stronger than me and guys shorter than me often still outmass me and are stronger than me, it’s strange that it’s so hyperfocused on height.
Husband is my height but outweighs me by 50-60lb and can lift 2x what I can on my best day. I’m literally smaller and weaker, lol, despite being neither small nor weak.
Do people actually care about height?
It’s worth considering that we might not have a choice in the matter, at least as far as the subconscious is concerned.
Yes, especially among more shallow groups…
Although you’re not allowed to talk about it, it may even be a biologically sought trait. One of those animal things we act like we evolved past.
(In before a thousand comments about this one guy being shorter disproving… Oh wait)
No idea, but whenever I tried using dating apps, there were fields in the profile for height, so the developers must think that someone cares.
Some do (prefers tall), some do (prefers short), some don’t care either way, which is the case for pretty much any trait. Even serial killers get fanmail from people who get horny from that kind of thing.
Though the distribution isn’t neutral (as in the average pop might prefer it one way over the other).
Yes. Your height is a huge factor in your social appeal and status.
Taller people are considered more attractive, get paid more, and generally have positive biases associated with them. Short people have negative ones.
it’s further biased when it comes to female to male selection. men don’t care so much about women’s height, but women care very much about dating a larger, physically stronger, partner.
I mean, I have a preference but it’s not even a determining factor for me. I care much more about what kind of person they are.
I don’t get these guys. My wife is a couple inches taller than me and it… just doesn’t matter? If anything it puts my face closer to the boobies, so what’s the problem?
Guys are being spoonfed by the monosphere the narrative that if they’re 1cm too short or 1kg too heavy, women immediately despise them.
It keeps them trapped in a self fulfilling cycle of despair and watching mysoginist grifter content online.
I mean, that’s actually what happens though. Two weeks ago my wife and I were setting up two friends of ours on a blind date, and literally her first question was “how tall is he?” She of course got pissy when I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.
The manosphere is only able to capitalize on this rhetoric because it’s largely based in truth. Hashtag not all women, but enough of them for practically every guy under six feet to have a rejection story for being too short.
To act like stuff like this isn’t happening to guys daily is being willfully ignorant, and not working to change this culture is only going to drive more men to the horrible people who at least acknowledge that their problems are real.
something like 80% of single women are looking for a man who is taller, rich, and pays for all her dates like it’s the 1950s.
And only 50% of single men want that kind of relationship. So there is a huge gap. Men are actaully more progressive/feminist when it comes to dating than most women are.
I don’t get why height specifically anyway?
I honestly don’t either - it’s probably just as arbitrary and socialized as boob size preferences. Maybe someone here with a background in sociology or anthropology can shed some light?
I do wonder. It seems really important to women. Probably the whole stereotype of what a man should be, and a man being small ruins it for them instantly.
Of course some women dismiss men who are shorter than them, there are also men who dismiss women because their tits are too small or too big or a myriad other reasons.
The manosphere manipulates that and has used it to warp the minds and self worth of an entire generation slightly ugly or slightly short guys who are all perfectly capable of finding a partner and having deeply meaningful relationships with others.
Good luck “changing the culture” though, whatever that means.
I am just going to say that many trash can shaped women have some partner. Not getting rejected for the shape of boobs.
The so called “ugliest man alive” Godfrey Baguma is happily married so what’s your point?
I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.
it’s largely based in truth
How do I keep forgetting Lemmy is just 4chan filtered through Reddit.
Hey, I get it. It’s much harder to acknowledge the harmful biases you’re showing in this comment and be a force for positive change than it is to just reflexively lash out at the messenger.
Until that happens though, the problem will remain, and you’ll remain a part of it.
It’s much harder to acknowledge the harmful biases you’re showing in this comment and be a force for positive change
You really don’t see it, huh?
If this bunny can date a girl bunny four times its size, you can date a woman a few centimeters taller.
If male angler fish can find mates, short men can date tall women.
That’s hot
I know the solution…get off 4 chan
It’s hard to find a community that agrees with you when you say that you are a loser.
Much easier to not be a loser when not on 4chan
My gf is shorter than me by a a few centimeters(maybe like an inch for you americans) but she wears heels so she seems taller and thats a postitive if you ask me.
They were talking about women not liking short guys, not them not liking tall women.
Yeah but i think its a two sided thing as it usually is in relationships. Ive seen so many dms of people falling apart cause “when she wears heels shes infringing on my masculinity” or whatever. If you have the confidence and she doesnt care about it(which taller women usually dont cause its not like theyre gonna find someone whos 220cm) then it will work. If youre like “oh my crush is taller than me, i have no chance” youre setting yourself up for failiure. Also while i know this isnt the best advice but if youre short short than maybe try working out in a gym and becoming fit cause then you can get an extra factor that they might like you for.
I mean I actually got a date. So I can’t be that ugly.
But I am almost definitely pretty damn autistic.
Hey I am ugly and autistic, and still have been in a long-term relationship for years. Some people just are into it
I was married for 12 years.
I made a mistake with that, so yeah. Kinda fucked myself over with it. Didnt actually start learning Bout the 'tism part until recently
Same. 2m tall and get 0 sweethearts. Therapy wasn’t much help with anxiety caused by this. It is really painful, knowing that I’ll be forever alone. Contemplating taking an easy way out since September.
My partner is almost 2m tall. The have often complained that their size easily scares people off. I’m sorry about the anxiety. It sucks.
I believe the world is better with you in it. If you want to chat, I’m available.
I fail to see the problem.
cant figure out if Annon has too much Tormund energy or not enough
Wear high heels
Yaa lotta guys get the rough end of the stick. I feel. I’ve been trying for roughly a decade to flip the tables. Sick of the “female specimens” nonsense.
By flip, I mean that men and women have been playing chess. And I want to upend the table and poop on it. Ooga booga
This is leader material.
Hmm, what opening did they use?
The icbm gambit. A meme spin on tennison
I prefer the both back rows are randomized version of chess personally
Danny DeVito has a wife
He is also well known around the world
Show me you fail at statistics.
Yeah but Danny DeVito is charisma incarnate
Part of him being charisma incarnate is having exactly zero fucks to give about how his appearance differs from conventional attractiveness.
Part of the incel anticharisma comes from obsessing over how some facet of your appearance means never getting laid.
Turns out just being chill about shit is sexy AF.
It doesn’t hurt that he also has a magnum dong.
But she’s about the same height as him, and calls him “The Barnacle” due to his penis::body ratio.
6’6’’ and I only ever get like 1 girl to even talk to me on an app to every 10 dudes that actually meet me.
