I know this might be a weird and stupid question, but I’m curious.
Not weird or stupid!
Friends? Absolutely! People may go back and forth on the value of online-only friendships, but you can definitely make friends if you keep a decent back and forth going, no different than other online spaces. Obviously, be aware of the risks (scammers bots), but there’s lot of folks here who’d probably be down for friendship to at least some degree.
Relationships? This I’m a little less certain about - probability seems very low if you’re hetero, slightly higher but still pretty low if not. But who knows?
Don’t neglect meatspace, though (even if it’s kind of a horror show sometimes).
I was chatting up a polish girl on here a while ago. Her name was Nicole.
Hmm, whatever happened to that?
Somebody sent around that same template but with the girl’s face replaced with some gorn, and it spooked THE FUCK out of the mods and admins, to the point that sh.itjust.works blocked any community with the string “nicole” in it.
It went away the moment the sub got banned. They were basically feeding the troll.
I think she got murdered. Got a picture of a dead body with the usual caption.
I thought that turned out to be fake or disproven that it was the person.
Yeah it did- I was the one who disproved it (or one of the ones)
No. Impossible. Not even Nicole, the Polish chick from Toronto, has responded to my dick pics.
That’s no reason to give up. Post it here, we’ll respond!
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? Nooooooooooooooooooo. :O
Is it possible? Sure, I guess.
Advisable? AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAH no.Not sure why you’d want to.
i can see two lemmites being very happy together, going on about how linux is amazing, israeli is evil, capitalism is bad and communism is great, etc etc.
and sharing with each other at the end of the day how many fascists they called out.
it’s easy to be a happy couple if your hatreds align.
Just like MySpace had Tom, joining Lemmy automatically adds me as your friend. Unlike Tom, I cannot be removed. We’re friends forever now.
Maybe. Depends on what you’re into.
If it’s suicidal depression and mid-2000s mmorpgs, then I’m your guy!
No. This place is for serious discussion of facts and ideas only. Everybody stop having fun and being friendly.
It’s a worldwide site with a sort of small user base, anything is possible but it seems a long shot compared to going outside or talking to your friends, networking, dating sites, pretty much anything local seems a better chance.
Possible? Sure. Likely? Nah.
maybe you should develop a little more?
I mean, one does not ‘find a friend or partner on lemmy’, or anywhere else. Friendship, like love, is something that may happen and that will often not happen but we all need to work for it to maybe become a thing. Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)
Edit: clarifications.
I like the tone of your response. The last sentence is especially insightful.
Thx, much appreciated. Doing my best which is often not that great (English is not my native language)
Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)
I almost forgot I got a basement full of them.
Why is it when I hear ‘basement full of people’ I immediately remember that chapter in McCarthy’s novel ‘The Road’? That scene was so… horrifyingly plausible—not recommended to anyone easily frightened and/or disgusted. A truly wonderful book, nonetheless. Really amazing.
I would say the movie adaptation is a bit easier to watch but still more than quite tense.
back to being alone then, thanks.
back to being alone then, thanks.
Why would that be? It’s just a matter of deciding what one is looking for. Is it a (sex) toy for you to play with? Good for you, but that most probably won’t be a friend/partner (they don’t have battery to power them on will and they have their own needs). Is it a partner/friend? Even better, but don’t hope to find them in the (sex) toy department ;)
i’m just hoping to find good people in the “not awful” department. sex is optional.
There are people like that, you should not lose hope. Those people just don’t advertise themselves like that, and they are not waiting to meet anyone. This just happens when two persons start appreciating discussing with one another. Hence, the necessity to put in some work, and to make oneself available to them too. A few of those persons may even become good friends, with any luck.
Well said. It took me many years of my life to realize this.
Anything is possible.
The question you have to ask yourself is the probability of it worth making a concerted effort to achieve it?
but also the people pmming you on reddit or lemmy are not seeking to be your friend. they are scammers/bots.
Hey, the 4 or 5 times I pmmed people on Lemmy were definitely not to scam them. The jury is still out on being a bot, though…
I know reddit sucks and all but check out if your local cities have subreddits or if there are any similar groups on other platforms, usually they are at least somewhat active and always have meetups or groups on other platforms such as discord going or whatever else, people there tend to be sociable in person and still understand internet culture. there are a few of such lemmy communities but not nearly as much as reddit at the moment, that could also be a opportunity for y’all btw if you start your own.
Real talk, I love the idea of being part of the Lemmy contingent that ‘crashes’ (see: participates respectfully in) local reddit meetups.
Not a huge board game guy though, which is the most established one in my neck of the woods…
What about meetup.com or other similar websites?
Through that I found a network of people in my area doing niche things on fediverse and other platforms, theres things near me for like coding bootcamp meetup that is a professional networking event basically, and another that is a group of tech related groups that basically function as a local city think tank for improving the area, a couple of these actually but the others I only just recently learned about.
Through stuff like this I found some people running for senate which makes sense in hindsight but was super surprising.
I think meetup is still pretty full in general of groups of old people doing hikes and thst sort of thing though lol but it got me on the path of finding some niches which I had no idea could exist but now I know exist in most cities if we look for them.
If I recall there are a couple meetup-like fediverse platforms popping up now, one of them is actually made by one of the people I found through these irl channels.
I would remind everyone again to be the change we want to see in the world except I haven’t really done this myself so thats hypocritical lol
I’m not in a huge city either so I’d expect even more in a actually big city.
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I think the ratio is a bit skewed heavily towards 20something guys. So maybe if that’s your thing? Idk I’ve had some good exchanges with folks but that’s about it for me.
