Honestly I started hooking up with a girl who worked in the same building as me for a few months after I broke up with my ex at the time. She was hot and clearly interested in me so we started flirting and it didn’t take much time to escalate. We were both in our early 20s and she was a year younger than me. She said she was divorced, which was a red flag by itself at our age but I ignored it and gave her the benefit of the doubt…

So anyway that was a lie that turned into," oh we’re actually just separated", then “well, we still live together…”

Again I was a mess myself and she was literally one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met. We continued to hook up under the assumption that all parties consented and we’re aware of what was going on which was fine but in hindsight was still dumb. She was constantly lying, little things and big things. I never really knew the truth and she always had weird justifications which I didn’t really push her to explain, I just filed them away as ‘evidence’ for lack of a better term. We fuck for hours at my place then she’d go home looking disheveled and smelling like sex only to complain that her husband was in a bad mood. That shit was just disrespectful and I had no ntention of rubbing it in the other dudes face like that.

It got to a point where I was like, damn do I have to worry about this dude coming after me at some point? He was in the army and they got together at 18. I don’t know how much he knew about me but with the tension between them, our relationship was quickly becoming a liability. He had firearms, I didn’t. She also only had male friends, many of whom were clearly in love with her and pining for her affection, so more men who were against me.

We were on again off again for a while. One of the last times we hooked up we went to her house and as I took my shoes off I saw size 13 Nike SB Dunks, I didn’t even mention them but it was clear that I wasn’t the only dude she had coming around. And it sure as hell wasn’t a relative. At that point I was mentally checked out and done with the drama. Realized I was gonna get caught up in bullshit if I kept fucking around with her so I told her straight up I’m done because I can’t trust a word she’s saying.

I liked her a lot but we both had our issues, her problems were definitely more substantial tho, not to absolve myself or my actions. I wasn’t into it in the end; the infidelity and lying became far too much on top of the other mental/financial instability.

Apparently he was constantly cheating on her but IDK, so much of the story was iffy. For now on my rule is I’m open to dating a divorcee but only after the divorce has been finalized for over a year. Im not going through that shit again

Discord is kill

Like objectively, as an American, America has(more like had) great PR but has been a horribly violent imperialist nation for ages. The horrors they’ve exported have destabilized several nations for baseless power grabs and war profiteering.

I’m not saying Americans as a whole but the US government and the forces that actually drive it. Money and power has corrupted this nation and it is evil at its core. The tenuous peace that has existed for the past few decades is propped up but fraud and military excess. It’s not good for this planet as a whole. The genocidal history of America has been white washed and glossed over. What’s they’ve don’t to south America, the middle east, and south east Asia is unforgivable kind of shit man.

They aren’t the good guys, they’re the “victors” who have written history in their favor.

The user interaction metrics they’ve added have been interesting tho. Millions of south and SE Asians are flocking to reddit.

It’s been wild to watch how the site has grown over the past 15 years for me. Back durning trump’s first term I deleted my account and alts due to paranoia. I’m starting to think I should do the same for newer accounts or abandon the site entirely; hense my presence here.

I heard murmurs about Lemmy when the API shit was going down a few years ago but it was so small back then the switch didn’t really make sense for me. Now that the paranoia is back I don’t feel as comfortable/safe commenting on reddit anymore

I volunteer usually doing horticultural related work on restoration projects and in urban farm spaces.

This includes everything from planting to weeding and even sees construction of things like garden beds and other platforms for growing

_“I’m so appalled, Spalding ball Balding, Donald Trump taking dollars from y’all”

So Appalled - Kanye West

Children.

Fully and wholely children. Politics matter; shutting your ears and eyes to reality is not a viable strategy long term, honestly not even in the short term.

Children arent expected to participate in civic matters, at least to the degree adults do. You shirk those duties you are a child in practice. I’m not saying you need a stance on every thing that happens in a society but saying I don’t do politics (no the same as saying I’m not informed enough to have a strong opinion) is not becoming of a responsible adult in a functional society. Unfortunately we have a lot of people who say they’re not into politics as a cover for their beliefs in bad policy.

Huge difference between having it and not needing it and needing it and not having it.

I think the person you’re replying to is 100% correct since you’re coming at them so heated

As someone who tries desperately to bulk, fitness/health marketing is so frustrating.

I need calories, these small portion minimal fat and calorie bull shit foods low-key piss me off.

You gotta be fuckin kidding me man