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I’ve tried off and on, myriad types and duration for over a decade, not just for my ADHD, but because I’m a seriously anxious person with some complex-af PTSD. But also because doctors kept harping on me for not “doing enough mindfulness”.

I tried a minute a day for several months after three was too much, but only made it through 30 days before I had to stop even that.

This is especially true for people with PTSD/cPTSD/depression/AuADHD, but if meditation makes your mental health worse, don’t keep doing it. Seriously. Talk to someone about it.

For me, it makes everything worse. I feel like this is something people should know to watch out for, especially in the modern times of “mindfulness” being tossed around like it’s a positive for everyone. It isn’t. Some of us spend way too much time ruminating as it is, and need to spend more time working on how we think rather than how much.

Same here, it’d have to be something AI-hardened, though, still.

A really good suggestion (which won’t have the desired result for everyone).

Personally, I find meditating makes my anxiety really bad. Like almost immediately. I wish I was joking, but I’m not, I’ve tried all kinds, guided, monaural, free-form…sitting with my thoughts is just really bad for my mental health, oddly.

Every therapist and GP I’ve mentioned this to has laughed and said, “yeah, that’s one thing they don’t tell you, meditation and self-care aren’t synonymous for everyone. For some it will make things much worse, especially if you try to force it. If that’s the case, don’t do it any more.”

For me, trying to combat the negative self-talk and bad thought patterns is so much more helpful than sitting down and forcing myself to be still when that’s the last thing my body and mind want to do.

Oh yeah. I’m diagnosed with adhd and waiting is actually physically painful, which isn’t something most people understand, I guess?

I’m not straight and have no idea what it sounds like. (Not what you asked, but my incredibly straight parents have no clue what Grindr even is, if that helps. :)