i don’t mean this to say that people with mental health conditions are all abusive, nor do i take your comments as a diagnosis, i’m more or less just curious. after all, only a professional could help the specific person.
i have been emotionally abused by someone. they can never accept their own faults or mistakes. telling them they made a mistake will set them off and cause outbursts of anger. they strictly adhere to rules and try to control people to follow a rigid set of them.
will often prey on weaknesses to make you stay with them because “no one understands you, just me”. discards you but comes back after a while and the cycle repeats.
often makes others feel bad about themselves, that they are the best/only good person and they should be the reliable one to come to when something’s wrong. in their eyes, you are worthless no matter what you do to change it.
Just a random chiming in here… I work in the field of “crisis” social services, shall we say.
Yes, if you need to get away, it needs to be out of the blue and everything needs to be lined up. Get all the ducks in a row 1st and GTFO.
Because with controlling and abusive situations like this, the real abuse does not begin until one person tries to break away or make a change.