I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting with someone else) someone replied after some time “wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else”. That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there’s some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.
Are you trying to have non school related convos? People are nice if you do that but they generally dont want to do that, im ngl ive called some ppl out for that, like do not blow up our phones and make us uncomfortable, if you think someone enjoys talking to you, text them seperately. (this could not pertain to you, more like ppl asking where the parties are at and what everyones doing, we’re not in a group out of choice we are not about to share where we live)
It was a general chat where some people were already sending memes and so on, theres a separate group chat dedicated to studies, and its pretty dead most of the time, after some hours since I stopped talking there and no one is writing anything, so I don’t really get it why exactly I receive that, he was probably being pranky or something
I have muted workgroups for sending “good morning” and “happy birthday” messages. Then given them the reason, when they asked why I am slower to respond on WhatsApp than on e-mail.
If I join a work related group, I expect work related chat. I don’t enter social groups.
Reading down, I see OP was in a social group.
In that case, that’s just their (the sophomores’) way of social interaction.
Don’t expect them to be better face-to-face. Remember TV programs depicting bullying? That happens IRL with the same (and sometimes much higher) intensity. We are much luckier now, that we can just avoid them on the internet.
Let’s just say you now know one more person you don’t want to contact much. There is no lack of potential friends in the world.