Asking because not only did I suspect my (now former) boss to be like that, there was also a massive meltdown in a specific content creation space where an otherwise extremely kind CC was exposed as… being a bit special. So I thought I should try to get better at spotting ppl like that in order to not burn myself
Edit: Thanks everyone. I guess I didn’t word it correctly but my goal wasn’t to “diagnose” someone. I’m Autistic & am working in a field that allegedly attracts lots of hyper-competitive/toxic ppl, so I want to protect myself. That’s why. I already saw tons of useful comments so
Sounds like my mom.
I’d also add when something goes wrong it’s ALWAYS somebody else’s fault. Generally, if someone were to accidentally bump into something and break it, most would apologize, and at least offer to help fix or replace it, but my mom would get angry at whoever “put that there where it would get broken.”, or at the company for making such a shoddy product, or claim “you should thank me because that thing was ugly/ needed replaced.”
Also, she knows more about medicine than any doctor, more about cars than any mechanic, and if anyone implies otherwise, they just hate women and won’t listen to them.
Oh yeah, that last point rings true for my dad too. My family hired a health aid to assist with our relative who he’s helping care for in home hospice, and we fought with him for weeks to defer to the aid’s expertise. He believes, despite the fact that this is literally her career, that he knows better how to take care of someone on their deathbed. Despite not having gone through it before, or having any medical or healthcare experience. He would snap at the aid for showing him how to do something.
We ultimately had to have a heart-to-heart with the aid to apologize for his behavior and to teach her how to use his own narcissism against him so he would do things the right way.