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This sounds true for men but I feel like being an attractive woman likely puts a target on you from a bunch of people you have no interest in
For women it’s a two-way street. Yes, it gets you more jobs and more friends, but it definitely also gets the creeps lined up around the block. Plus, some of those friends and jobs only happened because someone wanted to bang you, and that gets dangerous fast.
Source: one of my friends in high school had looks that I literally saw stop traffic. But hoooly shit did guys especially seem to think her looks were an open invitation, and most of them weren’t subtle about it either.
Interesting perspective on this men vs. women. Really attractive guys want the attention and are thrilled if it gains them more sex. Not the case for females
I’m gonna be generous and assume that you aren’t aware but calling women “females” is a blood red flag. Especially when discussing attractiveness or difference between men and women societally.
You ain’t a scientist studying the courting rituals of exotic bird species. These are people.
Word of friendly advice, break yourself of that habit and stop worrying about physical attractiveness.
Women have much higher rates of being sexually assaulted than men. But unwanted sexual harassment can increase with both sexes which is an objective negative. More attractive women are also more likely to have their intelligence questioned compared to a more attractive male. There are also issues of not knowing if people like you for your character or just your appearance that negatively affects everyone. The point is life isn’t just better in every way if you are attractive there are some downsides as well
Probably, but being stupid is a worse curse than being ugly.
Dumbest person I know also happens to be a super nice, always happy, and also very attractive. She’s never struggled to get work ever, even for her dream job as a teacher when she had to take her foundational English and Math exams three times.
I would say she has a better life than the majority of people, never had a day of stress ever as everything has always worked out for her.
I think this is at least partially true, in that if you had two identical people and one was more attractive, that one would have increased benefits over the other.
This is my (male) perspective: I think an important part is to feel attractive and emit that confidence. Attractiveness can also be material things like how you dress, carry and style yourself as well as managing your personal hygiene and all those things.
I think a moderately attractive person with a lot of charisma and humour would get a lot further than an attractive person. I think an attractive person without humour or charisma, maybe even a shy person, would possibly not go all that far based on their appearance.
True. But I’d argue having money is way worse. Doesn’t even matter if you’re ugly as shit, people will always try to rent an apt in your arse. At least when they know you’re loaded. Then it’s game over. Can’t trust anyone anymore. Ever.
Maybe I’m a gloomy person in a very unfortunate part of the world, but it’s wild to me that someone thinks like that and not think immediately in sexual violence, kidnapping, human trafficking, etc. The standard of beauty near me is whiteness, of course, and beautiful white girls disappear a lot more than they should given the percentage they are among the population. Yes, I’m close to a sexual trafficking hot spot.
And for men there’s less danger but it’s also not perfect. Nobody’s safe in the times being…
And it doesn’t have to be crime, regular people often get a grudge over those things! Envy and resentment are powerful emotions. Also, there will always be the assumption that life was indeed easier for you and that you don’t deserve the fruits of your efforts. These ones may seem like trivial social conflicts but, in a psychologically vulnerable person, they can be crushing. (Let’s say, a guy loses his friends because they’re all musicians and they think he got an offer unfairly because of his looks and they think he’s some kind of “sell-out” or poser, but maybe our guy has been dealing with depression already and now he’s mega depressed).
It’s probably easier in average, but… yeah, the world is big and there are a lot of contexts.
I don’t like money nor I’m overly interested in it, but it’s probably the cheat-code this person is thinking about. People with money can fake their looks (surgeries are crazy these days), can buy popularity, can buy careers, can buy many many things. If you don’t care about authenticity and only care about the results or the appearance, money is the answer. Just be an aware narcissist and know your limits. For example, if you buy a position of power in the tech industry, but are not very smart, do not give a complicated conference or you’ll show the truth (e.g., Elon Musk and the dozen of times he’s been exposed as a pretender, even in games).
Yeah…
Probably in the future, they will gene manipulate every kid so they all look like models.
Imagine have your parents control your looks
Like, your parents growing up in the 80s deciding how you’ll look in the 10s
Not true. I’m very unpopular. But yet known to be very attractive. shrug
Disagree. It is definitely one of the traits that make life much easier. Being wise is the biggest advantage.
Popularity is a curse, and the fix for a fair economic life is anti-capitalism
Capitalism will exploit people’s qualities, if that is looks, they will exploit that too
Socialism is better. Everyone equally treated like crap, except for those in control
“Those in control” should be the workers, otherwise it’s not socialism, no matter how dictators like to call themselves
“Everyone treated like crap except those in control” applies to capitalism too, especially in colonised countries
So based on your comment there has never been a socialist government. Though all attempts to achieve “workers in control” have failed. But I guess we should keep trying. Or maybe that saying about doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is correct.
If you are interested on contemporary socialist economy professors talking about the experiences in the soviet union and in China, there are some, Richard Wolff is a nice one to start with. He carefully explains concepts of Marxism and to what extent they were applied in various cases, but then focuses on what current socialists advocate for.
If you want working examples of non-capitalist systems, that are sorts of socialist systems, we have worker coops such as the Mondragon coop in Spain, or the Democratic Confederalism of Kurdistan
If you are not interested in learning anything of socialism past what billionaires’ propaganda tells you, you are very free to do so
Ironic how even though these “successful” socialist societies are paradise … no one is leaving capitalist countries to go live in these paradise countries
Of my two examples, one is a cooperative, indeed there are people in Spain who go work there, and the other one is not a country, but a people inside Turkey, that has to military defend their own existance
I’d be very happy to go work in Mondragon or another worker cooperative. I was looking for a job in one yesterday
I ain’t terrible to look at these days, but I was quite attractive in my youth. But I’ll tell you what, being raised by right wing religious nutjobs can fuck up even that advantage. I’m better now, but I used to be incel adjacent.
