Content Warning: SA, pedophilia
So, when I was 13, I dated this 33 year old named Jake. I thought he was a roleplayer because he always showed me this young teen boy when I saw pictures “of him” on his small Discord server. Since I thought he was roleplaying, I told him my name was Rose and that I was 24.
He was all like, “Oh, that’s cute~” and being overall flirty with me.
Then I showed him my face so he asked “How old are you really?”
I told him I was 13 but my OC (original character) that I was roleplaying as was 24, and told him my real name.
He continued to date me for a little while longer, showing me pictures of this teen boy and acting like a teen.
He then got scared and said “Yeah, we need to talk. I really shouldn’t be talking to kids so bye.”
He also told me he missed his ex who was 20-something, so that’s when I started to realize something was up.
His ex tried to talk to me, saying he was “tired of Jake’s bullshit” and then blocked me.
Jake never blocked me but I got a new account and lost his contact information.
Anyway, Jake was always flirty with me, liking my posts, calling me cute, and inviting me to his Discord where he would send photos of the teen boy, but later blamed me and said that I “made him date me” and “groomed him”.
Did I? I mean, I lied about my age but I eventually told the truth and he led me to believe he was a 14-year-old or a boy otherwise close to my age due to the photos he sent.
I’m disgusted with the thought that he flirted with some 14-year-old boy, potentially, and got his photos. I’m also disgusted with the thought he could have done this to someone else using my photo(s) and pretending to be a 13-year-old girl.
But when my friend went to confront him once, he acted normal? He was like “Oh hi!” “By the way, tell Rose I said hi!” and even told him about how he was unlabelled but thought he liked his ex after breaking up with him AGAIN.
This is a little confusing. You’re asking if you as a 13 year old sexually assaulted someone because a 33 year old was dating you? Your story sounds like you came clean about your age pretty quickly and they kept talking to you and dating you afterwards. You’re the victim here. And whoever’s pictures he was showing you is also a victim.
I’m asking if I (13) sexually assaulted a 33 year old who dated me. Thank you though :)
You were a minor. Minors can’t consent, so no, he, an adult, SA’d you, not the other way around. Or at least groomed you. I don’t know what counts as SA.
When he dumped me, I called myself a “reject” and he said “And you do realize guilt-tripping will make people hate you more, right? It will make you more of a reject so you did this to yourself kid” That’s literally all I remember almost word-for-word and that he “really shouldn’t be talking to kids”.
Then I have old messages of 2019 where I messaged him, feeling guilty. I said “Hi, how are you?” J: “Good you?” I then said I was good, and that I liked his profile picture and he said “Thanks”
Doesn’t sound like anybody sexually assaulted anybody here, but the person you were talking to was a creep and very much knew what they were doing, and you were seemingly young and ignorant of the person’s motives, presuming you two were “roleplaying”.
not at all, he was a creep in his 30s, grooming a child. probably multiple kids, by pretending to be younger & posting a teenage boy’s (previous victim’s?) photos over & over in a discord. 🤢 i’m so sorry you experienced this.
he accused you of the thing he was doing, to mess with your head. it means you end up defending yourself against something you couldn’t possibly have done (since you were a child), to distract you from the fact that he’s doing the grooming.
baseless accusations are often confessions.
