Perhaps both of us are lucky to not have seen this toxic masculinity first hand
This is the answer. I have experienced it first hand thanks to an abusive ex-girlfriend. While we were together I tried to tell people what she was doing to me, but I was either mocked or simply not believed. The same thing happens to male survivors of sexual assault.
Don’t ignore other people’s experiences just because you haven’t witnessed it firsthand.
I’ve never heard anyone shame a man for not hitting a woman. But I do hear people complaining about that.
I’ve heard it since I was a young boy. It’s the earliest example of “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” many boys first experience.
This is generally what happens when a girl is bullying you and the response you get if you defend yourself or if you don’t defend yourself.
Huh, what? They get shamed because a man is supposed to be stronger.
The person you replied to was saying that they’ve never experienced this supposed shame but have heard of its existence.
I also have only heard of people complaining that this shame exists and have never actually seen a man be shamed for being hit by a woman
Perhaps both of us are lucky to not have seen this toxic masculinity first hand
This is the answer. I have experienced it first hand thanks to an abusive ex-girlfriend. While we were together I tried to tell people what she was doing to me, but I was either mocked or simply not believed. The same thing happens to male survivors of sexual assault.
Don’t ignore other people’s experiences just because you haven’t witnessed it firsthand.
Did my reply suggest I was ignoring this reality? I’m sorry that happened to you :(
It did come off as skeptical and a little dismissive, I’m glad to hear that’s not how you meant it.