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For example, I once heard a story about how a guy about 17 years old was dating his teacher who had a twelve-year-old daughter, and I heard they got married and had another child.

  • Pudutr0n@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    idk about marrying but I’m in my early 40s and have long term dated a few mothers, some with kids in their late teens. In short, it entails responsibility and tact.

    Being a recurring kinda-parental / adult figure in a kid’s life has an impact on their notion of what adults do, don’t do and what kind of adult they aspire to be. This entails responsibility. Forming any kind of meaningful bond then having it go away has an impact on anyone, but on children it can be harsher. If you have a heart you don’t mess around with a mother that you’re not really interested in and you should only meet their kids if you’re serious in wanting something stable/long term.

    Basically It entails a lot of responsibility that you can either assume or risk making not only the mother’s, but some poor kids’ lives harder. If you don’t care about any of that, that’s up to you (but also, you’re an asshole).

    Lots of wonderful women are mothers, though, and many are more than worth the extra care.

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      2 months ago

      I was expecting more comments like yours and less describing situations that I’d naively assumed only happened in pornographic media

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    It will depend on who the two people are and how they handle things.

    When I met with my future wife she had a son. I fell in love with both of them and after we were married I adopted him. 33 years later we are still going strong.

    Marriage is marriage man. Dating in an entertainment package

    Marrying is a partnership to deal with challenges of living. .

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    My wife was a mother already when I married her. Of course, I was the father of her children and we’d lived together for years at that point. But it still counts!

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    For example, I once heard a story about how a guy about 17 years old was dating his teacher who had a twelve-year-old daughter, and I heard they got married and had another child.

    Where was that? Cos I’m getting “Rural America”

    TBH it would probably be fun unless your step-children are WAY older than you, I figure the guy in your example had it best. And I can’t help but think “lucky her” for the teacher mom.

    There’s the argument that you’re sacrificing dating people you’re own age but some of us just vibe better with older ladies.

    My English teacher at high school apparently married an ex-student about 1 year after he finished school. Nothing underhanded, they just met up again and struck it up. She was built nicely, like Sofia Vergara.

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      My English teacher at high school apparently married an ex-student about 1 year after he finished school. Nothing underhanded, they just met up again and struck it up. She was built nicely, like Sofia Vergara.

      The story that I gave as an example, since I suddenly remembered it today, is quite similar, but that’s only in that story, the guy was damn assertive.