The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.
I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn’t really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.
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I think one of the issues couples have with cleaning is that everyone has different schedules and approaches
I never clean during weekdays, sorry but work fucks me up and when I come home I want all relaxation
When the weekend starts after my Saturday morning I’ll go on a quick cleaning binge, and then Sunday night I do another clean binge and repeat
I think, there are some things that can’t “wait”, dishes, always after meal. I never want to arrive in my kitchen and it’s full of dirty dishes.
i don’t own enough dishes for it to be a problem
Same here. Sadly, both of my housemates are more like underscores.
The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.
I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn’t really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.
Spend two hours of your precious weekend cleaning or 15 minutes once a day so it stays clean throughout the week.
Hmmm decisions decisions.