So I’m only 15. While I hope my boyfriend is the one for me, I also doubt it. I have had a girlfriend “Amy” since I was 12 but I am polyamorous and so is my boyfriend “Avery”. He is also dating some dude who I’ll call “Alex” since his name starts with the same letter as Avery’s and my girlfriend’s.
He said he’d love to call sometime and I’m sure he loves us equally, but he calls Alex for hours a day, for like 5-12 hours, and barely acknowledges my texts, he just reads them. In fact, he asked me to hang out with him but that was because he was bored that Alex wouldn’t be coming over.
Idk what to do. I feel wrongfully a bit sad and like I’m the bad guy.
They sleep on calls all the time too at night and I’m trying not to care but I’m sad because he spends more time with Alex than me. I wanna sleep over at his house sometime and do all the stuff they do but he can’t because he’s always busy with Alex. Maybe I’d be liked more if I was a boy…
He loves or better word “infatuated” with Alex. End it now before it causes more pain in the long run. You’ll find someone who loves you and you won’t question it.
A good quote to young lovers is “sometimes we accept the love we think we deserve.”
You deserve better. Make decisions that make you happy. The sooner you learn that, the better. No one else can make those decisions for your happiness but you.
I’m also sure most stoners and alcoholics care more about their partner than drugs and alcohol but he is a stoner and an alcoholic and never texts me even when he’s getting high or drunk like he used to, he just reads it but he texts his boyfriend all the time even when high/drunk
So far, I haven’t seen anything worth staying with him for. It just sounds like he’s no longer into you.
Yeah, dump him, I say
Do you think there’s any chance he doesn’t know he’s hurting me?
He knows. He seems well aware.
Thanks, makes sense
Thank you. Do you think he is infatuated with me too by the sounds of it? Hes nice to me idk
No. Sounds like he’s “nice” so he doesn’t have the guts to let you go. He wants his cake and eat it too.
Thank you so much :) I will talk to him about this, I’ve been trying to get him to let me spend time with him
Be careful. He’ll listen to your demands to keep you there longer. It’s a power trip. But we all have to learn on our own. Best to you.
Thank you. I feel like he is only physically not romantically attracted to girls because he always likes a man besides me and prefers to talk to him
Also I told him I wanted to spend time with him and asked if I could and he said “Sure, if I’m not with Alex”
Ouch. Putting your needs last.
Is he selfish a bit or is it me being sensitive?
He’s being selfish. You shouldn’t have to feel bad for the bare minimum of a romantic relationship. Your needs are valid. You’re still 50% of the relationship between you and him. He shouldn’t dictate.