So I’m only 15. While I hope my boyfriend is the one for me, I also doubt it. I have had a girlfriend “Amy” since I was 12 but I am polyamorous and so is my boyfriend “Avery”. He is also dating some dude who I’ll call “Alex” since his name starts with the same letter as Avery’s and my girlfriend’s.
He said he’d love to call sometime and I’m sure he loves us equally, but he calls Alex for hours a day, for like 5-12 hours, and barely acknowledges my texts, he just reads them. In fact, he asked me to hang out with him but that was because he was bored that Alex wouldn’t be coming over.
Idk what to do. I feel wrongfully a bit sad and like I’m the bad guy.
They sleep on calls all the time too at night and I’m trying not to care but I’m sad because he spends more time with Alex than me. I wanna sleep over at his house sometime and do all the stuff they do but he can’t because he’s always busy with Alex. Maybe I’d be liked more if I was a boy…
I’m gonna go on a limb and say you can’t handle polyamory yet. I couldn’t either. You need to be so confident (or oblivious) that you don’t get jealous. That’s really hard for some people.
If it were me, I’d tap out. Maybe find someone who would dote only on me because that’s what I need in a relationship.
But YMMV. I’m just a random on the Internet.
Makes sense. I’m fine with him doting on other people I guess but not when he spends way more time with them and doesn’t even wanna call or spend time because he’s too busy with him.