I mean even if the start had been explicit about abusive parents I would have been OK with the post… but even the wording “a household where someone’s mood shifts the atmosphere” come on!..
Anecdote time:
I love music and it is rare I am not playing some music when I am at home. When I have been out of town, my kids (grown already) had said the house felt sad because there was no music playing.
Similarly, when our cat of 20 years died, my mood was not very lively and I did not feel like listening to music… ergo, the house was indeed sadder than normal.
This anecdote fits the post to a T… yes I am taking it literally but there are LOTS of ways this could have been written more clearly and not cast a hurried mom (slamming cabinets) or a worried dad (quieter then usual at dinner) as abusive.
Finally, to clarify, this concerns me because TONS of kids read this stuff and swallow it entirely.
You’re fine, I know how weirdly kids can misconstrue things.
Edit: I want to add that I had no part in the down votes ITT, I’m just trying to bridge the disconnect that we seemed to have. A lot of people are understandably upset though, it’s a touchy subject!
No worries (I rarely even noticed up or down votes)
I am actually surprised how many people just won’t read. I have said like 8 times I understood the post, I just find it poorly written and worry vulnerable people may misrepresent it, just to have a million people explaining the post to me.
maybe? but I am just reading the post.
I mean even if the start had been explicit about abusive parents I would have been OK with the post… but even the wording “a household where someone’s mood shifts the atmosphere” come on!..
Anecdote time:
I love music and it is rare I am not playing some music when I am at home. When I have been out of town, my kids (grown already) had said the house felt sad because there was no music playing.
Similarly, when our cat of 20 years died, my mood was not very lively and I did not feel like listening to music… ergo, the house was indeed sadder than normal.
This anecdote fits the post to a T… yes I am taking it literally but there are LOTS of ways this could have been written more clearly and not cast a hurried mom (slamming cabinets) or a worried dad (quieter then usual at dinner) as abusive.
Finally, to clarify, this concerns me because TONS of kids read this stuff and swallow it entirely.
You’re fine, I know how weirdly kids can misconstrue things.
Edit: I want to add that I had no part in the down votes ITT, I’m just trying to bridge the disconnect that we seemed to have. A lot of people are understandably upset though, it’s a touchy subject!
No worries (I rarely even noticed up or down votes)
I am actually surprised how many people just won’t read. I have said like 8 times I understood the post, I just find it poorly written and worry vulnerable people may misrepresent it, just to have a million people explaining the post to me.