i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).
i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.
i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???
i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.
I was gonna just say “yeah, that’s textbook demisexual” but at the end I see you realized that already.
Not sure why you feel possibly invalid when it sounds like (based on this post alone) that you are the actual dictionary example.
I’m still kinda figuring it out, but I’m thinking I’m double demi for now (not sure if there’s another word for it).
For me I am far from completely nonsexual (basically allos’ only version of defining “asexual”), but it would only be important at all in a solid relationship (if I could even get that being demiro).
I just don’t feel an urge to go out and “get some”, but if someone I felt familiar and safe with just landed in my lap naked, then something has a decent chance of happening.
I consider that valid asexuality. It might be kinda “dictionary”-like too, but you don’t see a lot mentioned of people having the green and purple stripe (demiro/demisexual). Or at least I don’t.