The weirdest part for me is feeling totally comfortable talking on screen about anything, but then when you think about meeting in person, being worried that you won’t have anything to talk about and it’ll be awkward.
My favorite is when you’ve been online friends with someone for 10 years, talk for hours nearly everyday, confide in them, think of them as someone important to you only for them to say “you’re only text on a screen to me” and then ghost you for 2 years after a mild argument.
Yeah, what’s up with that? Is it something about not seeing the person face to face that makes us so prone to opening up in this way? The absence of normal social pretense maybe?
People keep their defenses up more when they have to do “facework”. If you’re not having to make eye contact, it’s easier to speak freely.
Even though it’s rare these days, it’s the reason behind that whole Freudian idea of therapy where the patient lies on the couch and isn’t looking at the clinician.
In fairness, Freud also advocating giving the patient cocaine to open them up. Tho he’s not entirely wrong…
I saw an article years ago about the best and worst psychologists, and it listed Freud in both. Almost everything he actually suggested has been discredited, but he made people think about the brain in new ways which allowed people who weren’t obsessed with shagging to come up with some decent theories. Truly the Cave Johnson of the mind, throwing science at the wall to see what sticks.
Cave Johnson is a great way of putting it. Was he kinda a quack? Yeah… But, did he also advance psychology in a variety of ways? Also yeah.
A different theory I once heard is that a lot of his supposedly discredited theories about early development and fetishes/maternal attachment that arise might actually bare more truth than we realize. The caveat is that they only apply to the super isolated children of wealthy families raised by caretakers(whom Freud almost exclusively did his research on). So some of his “crackpot” theories might actually just be a window into a very specific set of humanity.
