No problem. I’m here for you if you need me, and I’m sorry you had to see all those comments. I did not know that about the furry community, but I’ll give extra points to the furry community if they’re much more accepting. That’s a good start, especially considering that a significant portion of the furry community are LGBTQ+. I’m very glad your partner is supportive of you and you also support her community as well. Good on you!

I identify as Sub-Saharan African, specifically from the Kalenjin ethnic group of Kenya.

Awesome. I’m looking into it now. Do you have any plans on travelling to Kenya? Or have you already been? If so I’d love to read about your experiences.

The clue is in the name. Transracial. If you don’t believe that transracial identities are valid, then how is that not transphobia?

And my friend’s situation is very much real. It’s something she’s had to deal with since she was young. She is in her late 20’s now and since she has friends who support her identity, her wellbeing has been much better. I used to think transracial identities were invalid when I was younger, but after actually looking into it and having a friend who is transracial, I realized my presumptions were wrong. Transracial people struggle with self-love just like transgender people do, so what’s wrong with making people feel more comfortable in themselves? Nothing, that’s what. Nobody can come up with any good arguments. Instead they resort to ad-hominem after ad-hominem, which should tell you more about them than it does me and her.

Thank you. This is refreshing to see after the comments this post got, and if anything, while they make me disappointed regarding the hypocrisy many allies wear like a badge of pride, they just make me even more proud of my friend for standing up to people online despite the harsh comments she has faced. I agree it may not be as common or even “mainstream” compared to transgender, but popularity isn’t an arbiter of the validity of a person’s identity. I believe there’s a logical fallacy named after this called argumentum ad populum. The fact it is recognized as a logical fallacy is telling. I have hopes that in the future more people will realize that transracial identities have just as much logical grounding as transgender identities. It literally hurts nobody that someone identifies as something other than what was assigned to us at birth. We don’t live forever, so why not make people feel good in their own bodies since both transgender people and transracial people struggle with issues of self-love.

I’m transracial myself

Cool. I hope you have supportive people around you and the transphobia in the comments is not representative of your experience. You are valid and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You have my support and can DM me whenever you want to. Mind if I ask what you identify as?

The reason for that is because you hold transphobic viewpoints. If you support transgender identities but not transracial identities then you are being hypocritical. I’m sure you realize that. I expected better from a supposedly progressive social network.

To the people downvoting this and brigading, I politely ask you why exactly you’re so peeved about my friend supporting transracial identities. In both my and my friend’s eyes, transracial identities are just as valid as transgender, and we have both yet to hear good reasoning for why transracial identities are supposedly “invalid” while transgender ones are not. Just for clarification reasons, we both think transgender and transracial identities are valid and those people should be loved and supported. It’s just that when people make arguments against transracialism, there are always eerie parallels to the arguments that transphobes use to invalidate transgender people. You can almost unanimously change a keyword and have the argument be something that TERFs have used for years against transgender women, for example. I have yet to see one argument against transracial identities that wasn’t just de facto transphobia. So far, all I’ve had is either radio silence or ad hominem attacks when I politely asked for reasoning. Surely, Lemmings can do better.

Yeah, I can see why the Fediverse grows more and more controversial by the day.

And let the people who have publicly professed their transphobia win? Not so.

It wasn’t bait, it was me writing about my friend standing up for trans identities, both transgender and transracial since both are equally as valid. You seem pretty transphobic to me.

Transracial identities are only controversial to transphobes, though.

I’ll look into it. Thanks.

I didn’t expect as many transphobes to brigade my post, that is for certain.

If you consider a person saying transracial identities are valid is “bad-faith” then how is that not you being transphobic? Perhaps the mods of this community may not take kindly to transphobia.

It’s a good thing I wasn’t attempting to troll, now, wasn’t it? The impression I’m getting here is that so-called “allies” aren’t as accepting as they like to portray themselves as, and suffer from hypocrisy.

You say that like there aren’t people brand new to an instance or community making their first post which gets upvoted. You say it was controversial, but that’s like saying transgender identities are controversial because transphobes find it controversial. Like with transgender the only people who find transracial identities controversial are de facto transphobes.

So if someone talks about a person identifying as another gender besides the one assigned to them at birth, it’s “valid” and not “trolling”, in your eyes, but if a post involves a person talking about a person identifying as another race besides the one assigned to them at birth, it’s “Invalid” and “trolling”? How so? Transracial identities are just as valid as transgender identities (both are valid).

My takeaway from this is that many people who otherwise consider themselves as allies to the trans community are hypocritical and in essence transphobic when it comes to transracial identities.

It’s just that I got the impression that Lemmy is generally trans-friendly, and the post was in the Offmychest community on .world. It is Pride Month after all, so I figured with all the support my friend has offered to trans identities lately, and stood up for them despite the harsh backlash she has received online as a result of that, the post would’ve been more well-received. To me it is very scary that people would see a post praising and validating trans identities and immediately downvote it and proverbially shit on it, and only getting radio silence or insults when I politely ask them to explain why they didn’t like my post.

You say that without explaining your reasoning, potentially because if you do explain your reasoning, you will end up looking transphobic.

I didn’t realize the amount of keywords one uses to describe how proud they feel about their friend standing up for trans identities makes those trans identities invalid, unless I’m misunderstanding you.

How so?