Chronic pain sufferers: ‘Are we stupid? Why didn’t we think about that.’

Weird how genetics is left out of this.

Fuck me for having PCOS I guess.

Chronically ill people seeing this meme: ‘Am I a joke to you?’

Let me introduce you to the concept of chronic illness and pain.

Chronically ill people are in the same boat. Doctors won’t believe them because their symptoms cannot be measured. Friends alienate them because they don’t have the spoons to live up to expectations. Family keeps telling them to just think positive thoughts. Everyone tells them they are sick because they aren’t exercising and dieting enough.

All while you are in perpetual pain, nausea, fatigue, and overstimulation from so many new ways you learn your body can suffer.

I wholly agree that beyond just sustainability, the reduction of suffering for animals is in the heart of veganism.

That being said, it’s not the most effective argument to sway us meat eaters. When people think of animal suffering, it brings shame and guilt and makes some people defensive. This is why some people hate vegans, because it’s a reflection of their own inadequacies. They revel at finding proselytizing vegans to pull apart because it lets them tell the world ‘See? This is what all vegans are like. I’m not like that and therefore I am a good person.’

Self-interest is the easiest way to goad people into thinking about veganism without hurting any egos. If you rephrase veganism as a matter of self-preservation and not a moral issue, people are more open to that.

It’s much easier to make the world eat 10% less meat than make 10% of everyone a vegan. Veganism for all isn’t the answer yet, because human incentives don’t work that way. Instead of promoting veganism, it’s much more achievable to ask people to do things like meatless Mondays.

I eat meat and you’re being a twat.

Veganism is a good cause and we can all learn a thing or two about sustainability from them. Stop acting like they’re out here to take your oh-so-precious meat away from you. Eat a vegetable or two so you can get that turd out of your ass.

CUP SIZE IS RELATIVE TO BAND SIZE.

I need every man here to stop talking about ‘D cups’ for side like it means anything. It sounds as stupid as saying ‘100 moneys is a lot of money’ without stating the currency.

Here is a chart of sister sizes. Every row is the same volume, meaning that a 40A, 36C, and 30E are the same volume, just different shapes.

Now, it is true that it’s harder to buy nicer looking bras for d-cups and above, but that’s because big bra has been pushing for bra conformity for decades and shoving women into a narrow range of sister sizes at sleazy stores like victoria secret so that they don’t have to make a larger variety of sizes. The result is that women who want a bra that fits have to pay a premium, and bras are expensive as is.

Bras are not just clothing, for many women there is a medical need for one due to back pain and other conditions. Yet, the bra industry cares more about the sales volumes of their 36Cs than the fact that half the women wearing them are likely wearing the wrong size.

Most women have long hair. Long here requires more maintenance. It’s that simple.

Stop making pseudoscientific excuses about chemicals to reinforce your own views on gender.

It’s normal to pee. It’s not normal to pee 200 times a day.

Apply that to any ADHD symptom and you’ll understand.

Girls used to be 16x less likely than boys to be diagnosed, now only 3x less likely, because traditional ADHD criteria excluded girls and women from their studies. Girls are sociallized differently and thus present different symptoms. Girls are also more heavily penalized for typical ADHD symptoms and are forced to learn to mask better.

A lot of the backlash against women speaking about their ADHD symptoms on social media is due to misogyny and gatekeeping. When women present their experiences, it’s often seen as attention seeking behavior and not treated as an account of how the medical system has once again failed women.

For all intensive purposes, the meaning of words matters less than how we use it. Irregardless of how we decimate it’s meaning, so long as we get the point across there is no need to nip it in the butt. Most people could care less.

I’m afraid AI written books are being published and put into library shelves too.

Women: socialized from a young age to uphold beauty standards or else be treated worse for being ‘ugly’

Men: 6 in 1 shampoo go brrr

What if instead of treating people at an arbitrary age as ‘adults’ as if their age and maturity grants them freedom that absolves everyone else’s concern for their wellbeing, we treat everyone like people who are deserving of basic necessities and help, no matter their age and circumstances?

Everyone pees. But it’s not normal if you have to pee 20 times a day.

This is what I tell every person who believes that people are pathologizing normal behavior into autism. If it doesn’t significantly impact your life, if it’s only one or two traits, then it’s not autism.

I had meltdown episodes as a child when anyone attempted to dress me in anything that had a seam that could be felt, edges of Velcro, clothing tags, untucked shirts and the sensory nightmares of cold buttons on my pants, dresses without shorts under, etc.

As an adult, I still can’t wear normal bras, clothing that isn’t soft, most jeans which have stiff seams on the waist, and so many materials that itch the hell out of me.

To this day, I have had friends treat me like a brainwashed social media nut for even suggesting that I may have autism. All while I’m going to the movie theater with non-polarized shades and ear plugs.

Calling out the systems discrimination of girls and women with ADHD symptoms isn’t knocking others down. That’s like treating feminism as a personal attack on you because speaking up about women’s issues is an act of putting men down.

Think of how little leniency you get as a boy with ADHD. Now think about how girls and women don’t even get that, and are even more frequently punished for ‘acting out’ their ADHD symptoms due to a failure to conform to their gender roles.

There are many widely cited studies proving the prevalence of underdiagnosis of girls with ADHD, partly because the guidelines are decades old and derived from studies that deliberately excluded girls.

We also don’t give Adderall to people with ADHD.

Girls used to be diagnosed 25x less often than girls, now it’s only 3x less often. ADHD occurs at the same rates between genders. Girls are just more heavily conditioned and disciplined into gender conforming behavior, which involves sitting still, being quiet, paying attention, and ‘behaving well’. Girls with ADHD symptoms are treated as troublesome kids, without the leniency towards boys with ADHD.

This doesn’t cure girls of ADHD, it just makes them internalize their suffering at the cost of their mental health. Speaking as a woman who wasn’t diagnosed and medicated until my late 20s.

Go by weight. If you have two bundles that have the same number of rolls, the heavier one either has more or thicker squares.

I like how you have no issues with everyone else presuming OP’s gender given the prevalence of heterosexuality, but as soon as a woman does it in a majority male forum like Lemmy, you start mentally breaking down.

I hope you overcome your incel tendencies, learn to stop grasping at straws, and accept that what ever hate you have towards women is unfounded and a product of your delusions.

You’re simpler than you think you are. Explosive temper in your response, grasping at straws and deflecting, calling women bitchy on a stranger’s word.

Some therapy could help with that. Feel sorry for yourself first before feeling sorry for others.

People don’t generally set ultimatums unless it’s something that has been bothering them for a long time and hasn’t been addressed.

The way you call OP’s girlfriend ‘bitchy and entitled’ just reeks of misogyny when she never got to tell her side of the story. People like you should be setting aside your own biases and ask if OP is a reliable narrator, instead of taking everything at face value because a man’s word is more trustworthy than his account of a woman’s word to you.