Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others.

Here to share my mistakes and learn from yours. I generally mean to engage with the best intentions, i apologize if i ever feel abrupt.

Never assume malicious what is equally likely ignorance/over exuberance. 💙

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Cake day: October 4th, 2024

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  • RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

    On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected… On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don’t know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn’t want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

    RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

    Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It’s been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩





  • That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

    People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

    But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

    Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

    It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃







  • The only people in real life i have met who have ever complained about small talk were in the context of “i do not care enough about [the people around me] to pay attention to anything [they] say not directly relevant to me/my hyperfocus” and i just realize they’re the “everyone else is an npc” crowd and let them be sulky all the time and hate every social thing they have to do, and I’ll have a fine time chatting with the cashier about her day! These are always the same people who say everyone else is boring, not that they have given anyone the time of day.

    Tbh if they see others like that im happy to not give them my time and show interest in them either. All social is give and take on every level and those people are always takers. We’re where we are now because of people who can’t bother to care about the lives of others.


  • I would think you’d understand needing to stop and fight for justice is a little more youthful than moving on, not putting a stake in something that’s really objectively a waste of your time and energy vs organizing your own space that accomplishes what you want?

    Or is it easier to white knight and try and demand other spaces cater to you specifically?

    Explicitly you were upset you were properly moderated, then grew indignant. The internet doesn’t exist to make you comfortable, especially in your errors. Now, at this point, you’re just kind of the stereotype “takes online so seriously they’re the other side of the troll horseshoe” because i don’t think you would grandstand so hard in a public space about being told you made a mistake.

    Of course, maybe you would and have lived a privileged life where everyone always bent to you, and that’s another situation entirely. Being uncomfortable for the first time can be upsetting, and tbe internet does allow you to rant in ways i don’t think you would in a real dynamic with people you saw as real and equals in their own space that you entered voluntarily.