I have often said that for me successful dating is not about getting to date lots of people, but about quickly filtering out the people who don’t work for me and filtering the people who do.

For OP, a lot of pan/bi sexual people already reject strict gender roles, and may be more open to a relationship like you’re seeking.

landlords might have got some money but still not all.

This is assuming that the landlords aren’t also the private equity companies as well. So far as I can tell in long term care/assisted living/skilled nursing facilities, the same parent company owns everything, but the food branch is separate from the nursing branch, is separate from the physical rehabilitation branch, is separate from the admin services, and since they are all separate from the building branch, they are all operating “at a loss since” they have employees to pay. All the money goes to the building branches and everyone else gets told to do more with less.

One of the things that I took from therapy was to stop and really consider how much influence I had over specific outcomes and then dive even more deeply into how much influence I had over specific outcomes at specific points in time.

I might have 85% control over x component of my job generally while I’m physically present. But do I have any control over it at 3AM while I’m at home? No, there’s 0% control and not way to change that, it’s better to save my energy to deal with it in the near future than stressing/ruminating about it right now.

This is a result of 3 rounds of therapy each running about 3 years, one of them including group mindfulness meditation followed by group therapy in addition to individual therapy. It’s not easy, but it is possible. I also strongly believe it’s worth it.

Give a fuck while you’re on the property and don’t give them any space in your mind, heart or soul when you’re gone.

That said, fuck them, hope they burn in hell is the opposite of not giving a fuck since they still get that attention or energy from you. Try to think of them as little as possible and give them as little emotional energy as possible when you do think of them.

Luckily I had somewhat more minor versions of the feelings (I was toast) previously, and had been in therapy at that time. While it wasn’t the focus of the therapy it obviously came up and I had some coping strategies already in place by the time my serious burn out came around.

I agree with what other people said about adding very different feeling things into your life and reducing the things that feel similar. I also have (counterintuitive but bear with me) fairly regular things in my life (I’m a creature of habit) and leaning into those habits really carried me through. I couldn’t make a decision to save my life, but if it was Tuesday I went dancing and Mon/Wed/Fri are strength days and my wife always wants to do happy hour on Friday, so things happened because they always happened if that makes sense.

It sucks because these things are ideally in place before the burnout. When you need them most it’s the hardest to do.

I used to base my social life around fun cheap’s suggestions.

I didn’t say she was crazy, I said she’s fucking Goofy.

Burn out takes up to two years to recover from, so a few weeks is really not enough to recover.

Consider watching this video (or don’t, it did make me cry when I was needing to leave patient care).

https://youtu.be/L_1PNZdHq6Q