Is that a real pick? Someone did this to their cat? See the necklace - it was not an accident :(

I feel like no stupid questions includes no weird questions as well. Please don’t attack people for posting here.

No, it’s not.

Stereotypes are hard to avoid.

That’s the problem, people are very diverse. Look around yourself for examples of couples (in real-life, not online), and I’m sure you’ll find many examples of “ugly” people of all genders being in happy relationships. I know a guy with a facial deformation in relationship with a beautiful woman, I know a seriously fat couple. The forever single people I know mostly have severe mental or personality issues.

Stopping dating because of looks sounds misogynistic. It implies all women are superficial, which is simply not true. I know several cases of men that could be seen as ugly for different reasons, who had no problem to find a partner thanks to their personality.

Or, alternatively, you could eat healthy.

Just to be clear, I see polygamy as bad only because of the women oppression aspect. But the world is a big place and history is long, so I wouldn’t be surprised if at some point there was some system that allowed for polygamy without oppressing women. Mentioning mormons - don’t you think they can be seen as another weird different group - and therefore be also object of xenophobia? Notice I intentionally didn’t use the word racism, what I mean is just the sentiment that people doing things differently than my group must be deadly wrong.

I think normalizing having more partners even in a stable relationship with one partner would make it much easier to actually talk to your partner and discuss it openly, because the percentage of partners that see it as something terribly wrong would be much lower and people wouldn’t feel like speaking about such things is risky. That would reduce the need for cheating, although it wouldn’t make it disappear (as it’s not the only cause, as someone’s correctly pointed out).

I agree with the part that it’s really up to people. I don’t agree it’s ok to want people to hide their relarionships. And they do have to hide them or face problems. People who decide to live in uncommon relationships are a target for others. They often get questioned uncomfortably even by rather liberal people and attacked and bullied by conservative ones. It’s really hard to do this openly. In such circumstances, I do think it’s oppression. It’s also not really about me. But I have eyes and empathy.

But the probability you get wed to a guy who sets you aside because bored and then marries your girlfriend out of pure respect to you is very low.

I think in western culture it might be a bit of both, and also a bit of xenophobia - it’s different, so it must be bad. I’d be interested in knowing more too. Very good question.

That’s just not true. Open relationships do exist (I’ve seen several work out nicely) but the overall opinion on them in most cultures is they’re weird, doomed or plain wrong and evil. Unless it is normalized that sex is not something fatal, it’s ok among consenting adults, we won’t move to a really sexually tolerant society.

Infidelity is widespread, because it comes from human nature. Instead of vilifying it we should strive to find and normalize forms of relationships that allow for more liberty without the necessity of lying and cheating.

Well, it doesn’t to me. Without them telling us we won’t know.

I agree fully. If you were not allowed to eat other life, you would be left with licking salt. But that’s not what I meant. What I meant was people use the “thing” label to make it easier to drop empathy - to do shitty things to both humans and other animals.

I’m talking about psychology, not history. Sociopathy is not considered an illness.

Violence is not the basic force driving life and decisions. It’s just one of the basic factors that helps to structure our society (and all societies).

It’s not their theory. If someone explains basic theory of relativity to you, will you call it their theory?

First I was sure these were kitchen sponges.