Just stopping in to say that if you are learning spanish, I’ve found Dreaming Spanish to be far superior to duolingo for actually learning the language. I believe they are also offering French now, and their method of comprehensible input is better in general for learning

Your dad is probably a straight white guy with a decent job cruising to retirement.

If this were the actual cause, then where are all the gay Mexicans rioting in the streets. There should be, at minimum, millions, if protesting and rioting were popular ideas.

Null hypothesis: until their lives are significantly impacted, most people will ignore the administration and wait for it to blow over. Not because they are scared, but because they are busy and have lives that they care about living.

I mean… what was the last significant action you took against the administration? Like, something you had to go out of your way to do, that cost you some amount of time, money, effort, or risk? How many other people were helping you?

Didn’t Bernie come close-ish to winning the Democratic national primary for president and push a great number more people to identify as socialist, to the point where Mamdani openly ran as a socialist and became mayor of NYC?

Also, iirc, the US is no longer majority white. And Trump had sizeable latino support in the last election. I think that people just don’t categorize themselves into identity groups as much as some would like to believe, and simply have a default state of hoping that bad times will blow over

That is horrifying. I can get a monthly transit pass in my city for $88, which is actually down from 10 years ago, when it was $100.

They won’t.

Despite what you hear on lemmy, the average american is not living in some kind of fascist hellscape. They are working a pretty decent job for a wage that pays their bills, and everything for them is more or less the same as it was under Biden. They are unhappy with the increased cost of things - but they aren’t even close to “riot in the streets”.

Instead, their strategy will be:

• ignore the federal government until the next election
• vote in opposition politicians in city and state elections in the meantime

Legally, the states can’t make laws that contradict federal law. But as the case of marijuana legalization has shown, the federal government is very hesitant to push back on laws passed by states with broad popular appeal. So in the meantime, we’ll likely see moves by the states to become more autonomous, and will see more anti-Trump politicians make names for themselves and get ready for the national stage.

What… the fuck…? Where do you live that this costs 800 FREAKING DOLLARS???

Visiting art galleries and museums is associated with the middle and upper classes, who generally have better health outcomes. Similar with singing and painting - you need time and money for things like materials and classes.

Absent SES effects, all these things require getting up off the couch to just do literally anything, which is the primary driver of most positive life outcomes. People who do these things are going to be more likely to do things like intentionally exercising or eating healthy diets.

After adjusting for these, I’d guess the biggest factor is community engagement. People who sing tend to know and spend time with other musicians. People who go to art galleries meet other people who go to art galleries. Being part of a community and regularly socializing is good for people.

But, like, I doubt looking at Rembrandts on your phone will make your wrinkles go away

Because they are a religion, doing religious things. Their main goal isn’t to stop harm to animals, but rather, to gain a sense of self worth by taking an unassailable moral position.

Hence, the people who make them angriest aren’t the people who hate them - but the people who ignore them.

Unless she goes through a particularly weird rebellious phase and has other cubans to integrate with, with her pedigree, she will be very white. Outwardly, she will likely just look like a tan white girl. Socially, based on the international mixing and gay integration in your family, she will be socialized as a part of the globalization class, who give up any real cultural identity in the service of improved integration with people of many diverse cultures - and this class is predominantly inhabited by white people. She might go through a phase where she wants to learn more about her cuban heritage. But being part of the globalization class, she will identify the living elements of cuban culture as trashy, and will quickly (though discreetly) reject them - if she ever comes into contact with them at all.

Actual reason is that these instances have been supporting antisemitism under the cover of antizionism, frequently have calls for violence, and generally whine and cause drama in the service of advertizing their instances (see above).

Followup: what are the impediments to using, say, seawater instead?

I mean, you can resolve your current problem with a single conversation. You say to your wife “hey, I feel like you are acting super checked out. What’s going on?” You will get one of three answers:

1. Yeah, I hate this, I want to end it.
2. I’m so sorry, I had no idea, I’ve been going through such-and-such, I’ll try to be better.
3. Something evasive or noncommittal.

If 3, you need to come back with “Hey, no, this is a real problem for me. We need to figure this out.” And press the issue until it resolves to 1 or 2.

The outcome with be either improved communication in your relationship (possibly facilitated via couples councilling) or a divorce. Or you can choose to do nothing, and live with the current situation as it is. But I wouldn’t suggest this.

I mean, the difference is that companies typically don’t function as an employment cartel like the NFL does. If you work as a data entry clerk, all the other data entry firms won’t refuse to hire you if you decide you don’t want to transfer to Omaha. But if the Lakers decide they want to sell you to the Red Sox, you really have no choice if you want to continue being a professional hockey player.

Or - they are selecting for people that are good at understanding how to reframe. Which is probably one of the most important skills you can have in life.

Like, if they ask “why do you want this job?” And your answer is “because I want money” then you will not get the job. Not because you lied or failed to lie, but because you failed to acknowledge the context of the question. The interviewer wants to know why you won’t be a miserable sack of shit while working there, because they don’t want to deal with that in a coworker. And it is useful to consider the framing that leads to the answer “because I want money” - it is the assumption that jobs and money are scarce for you, and you desperately need any job right now. And this is the type of person most employers are desperate not to hire - which is why you hate this question. Because it outs you as someone people don’t want to hire.

The better framing is that you are confident that you can get any number of jobs, that you are looking for one that will pay you, of course, but that you also care about a number of other things like the day to day tasks you’ll be doing, the people you’ll be working with, and the impact you’ll be having on others.

And neither of these framings are untrue. Your desperation to get a job is a function of your emotional state. Sure, you can want to get a job sooner rather than later - but all you have to do is realize that things will still be okay if it takes a bit longer to get the job you want than you would really like it to. And we can observe this to be true - that everything will be okay - because it has been true every other time in your life (you’re still here, aren’t you) and in others’ lives.

Literally any “annoying” interview question that gets listed here will typically not stop being asked, because it serves a purpose for the interviewer. If you are annoyed with questions about “what are your strengths”, “what are your weaknesses”, “where do you see yourself in 5 years” - interviewers know these are cliches. They don’t care. The fact that they are cliches means they get to catch you the person who hasn’t bothered to think of an answer to these questions, and not hire you. Sure, some interviewers are going to ask these questions with blind naivete - but some know that they are actually asking “can you answer a simple fucking question that you don’t like answering without having a breakdown?”

It is not hard to come up with answers to these questions. Hell, you can practice saying the answers in the mirror or to a friend, and come off 100% more confident and polished than other candidates. So just do that and come out ahead, rather than dreading these questions, flying in unprepared, and bombing the interview on what should be a gimme

I feel like this article misses the big underlying problems of car dependency, and is mostly directed at dense urban centers which are already reasonably well equipped to ween off car use.

The real issue is reforming car first infrastructure and urban design. The science is clear: you literally cannot transit your way out of an auto-dependent suburb. People’s homes are so spread out that having enough transit lines and stops to cover everyone would be astronomically expensive, and much slower than simply driving.

The solution to reforming the suburbs is twofold.

First is to give people reasonable options for living in less autodependent spaces by allowing and encouraging denser housing development in already walkable areas, and relaxing suburban zoning to allow walkable spaces to develop naturally in these areas.

Second is to, essentially, force people to stop using their cars via economic leverage. Gas taxes, carbon taxes, registration fees, additional infrastructure fees for sprawled suburban homes, no free parking, fees for using highways and fees for exiting highways into dense urban areas, etc. The reality is, cars are extraordinarily convenient, comfortable, and safe, and we will continue having ample roads for them to drive on for the forseeable future.

If only we could get that idea in people’s heads.

Seems misguided to me. People only do these sort of society-wide prosocial actions when it is within their convenience tolerance. It reminds me of this:

Sure, you occasionally will run into the desperately poor person working 3 jobs who also finds the time to pick up litter in their local park. But most of the time this person has more important things to think about than litter - like getting a job that doesnt require them to work 3. The idea that we need to get people to be more pro-social so they will take the bus feels a lot like the idea that we need to teach people that exercise is healthy so they will cycle more. But the reason people don’t cycle, we know, is because it is inefficient and dangerous, and the reason people don’t take transit is because it is slow and unpleasant. And when cycling or taking transit is faster, cheaper, safer, and more pleasant than driving, people do that.

I ran my mk3 golf without coolant for a summer. I abused that poor thing so much.

oh … oh no …

The impression I get is that teal and grey have been hooking up casually for a while and have been open in their discussions about actively looking for other people. Teal’s “thank god” is a call back to grey’s consistent difficulty finding s suitible partner or complaints about being unable to find one. Grey then responds with faux outrage.

I’ve had these sorts of message back and forth with fwbs before, but even meaner. They’re hilarious