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Cake day: August 8th, 2024
  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Why are we so concerned with impressing each other?
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    4 hours ago

    Welcome to The Problem!

    I believe our societal models are the reason. It’s not just that all people are self-absorbed and greedy, it’s that everything we have built for ourselves pushes us toward being just that, from start to finish.

    We have slowly snubbed out true values, like a sense of justice (by this I mean fairness mostly, true Justice, not Electric Chair Jamboree), empathy, collaboration, soulfulness, all of the noble qualities of humanity, and have slowly replaced them with therapy shopping and a fixation with achievement in order to cover up that which is missing from within ourselves.

    Then again, some are just… empty. Devoid of personal meaning, which is why they want to empty everyone around them in order to not be alone with that hole in their souls.

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What are your favourite winter clothes whilst lounging indoors?
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    2 days ago

    Honestly, I wear a pair of old skinny jeans, the kind with a bit of lycra, bamboo-based socks because fluffy but not cumbersome, and T-shirt with thicc hoodie. This is in 21-22°C.

    In anticipation of the funny looks, I’m super-serious about the jeans! They’re nice and soft at this point, and they do a pretty good job at keeping my legs from freezing off! Pretty much wear jeans all year.

    And the biggest advantage is that nobody can tell I’m essentially wearing my equivalent for pajamas!

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you had a 1 year sabbatical, what would you do?
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    6 days ago

    It really does take a while… Had a 9-month breakdown during the Pandemic, that one was exclusively for mental health care. I literally locked myself in my apartment and did nothing but eat, sleep, play vidya, get high, and have weekly therapy sessions for the entire duration.

    It took 8 months to stop being anxious about not being stressed out. Used to wake up every morning with that sharp fear that I’d missed my daily meetings, then it would slowly turn into an “oh, shit, I’m not being Productive” jumble of self-loathing and panic.

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you had a 1 year sabbatical, what would you do?
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    6 days ago

    Agreed, expressed it incorrectly, the burnout is nowhere near the main reason for my taking time off. I needed to take a break from Adult Stuff. I mean, last time I did anything even remotely resembling a vacation/holiday was in 2014, now I’m taking my time.

    Also, thank you so much for your kind words! Honestly, burnouts are just part of the routine at this point, I’ll be back on my feet in two-three months tops!

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you had a 1 year sabbatical, what would you do?
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    6 days ago

    Nothing! I’m super-serious, and I plan on doing exactly that for the following 6 months (quit my job, taking a break to address burnout and reorient): nothing.

    By that, I mean I’ll allow myself to get as much sleep as I humanly can, try to feed myself healthier food (and more regularly), develop my hobbies (mini painting, playing the bass, sketching, writing), re-establish a semblance of a social life by exploring the city and its options, spending more time with friends… Pretty much just living life. No goals, no quotas, no deadlines, no performance metrics, no side-hustle, no Work™.