That’s not what I mean by complaining. I mean people complaining about the smallest thing like if they criticize someone in public wearing an outfit they don’t like

The weather thing was probably a bad example. I just mean that people are generally complaining in public and stuff about small things

I see you’ve asked this very thing and it didn’t go over well for you in the other instance.

I’ve noticed that, it’s kinda weird. It’s like for every upvote I get here I get a downvote on the other instance. I wonder what the reason behind that is.

What’s there to be grateful for when YOUR country is the one offering free healthcare, when America has pressurized it’s people in a ‘pay or die’ situation?

Exactly that’s why I’m wondering why people here are still so ungrateful on a daily basis. They don’t see what luxury they have and instead focus on every little life situation by seeing it negatively

That’s not what I mean. I mean complaining about these small every day things like the weather, foreigners and so forth even though there are way worse things in life.

I mean primarily irl

Sorry man I don’t understand what your problem is with me but I don’t think it’s healthy to keep engaging in this conversation

Sorry I don’t really understand what you mean. I was just asking what it is about this particular instance because people here seem quite hateful

What?

That might be true. Maybe it’s a global trend?

And to add to it: There are always two ways of looking at things. There is the optimistic and pessimistic view. I think the Western world had an opportunity for a more positive attitude by making Kamala Harris president. But as we know that didn’t happen and at this point I think the hate has already normalized. In a way I think Trump embodies hate. Just look at his Truth Social posts and compare them to Harris’ X posts.

I hope I’m not turning hateful then. I’m trying my best to stay positive and don’t let the negativity influence me

Have you ever been to Germany?

I don’t mean just social media. I’m particularly focusing on actual life here in Germany. They don’t just complain about bigger things like work but seem to be dissatisfied with every littlest thing

Yea I’m not too worried about constructive criticism of things that can really matter to a certain extend. But I’m experiencing many people in life who constantly complain about the smallest things. No matter if in grocery stores the workers are complaining if someone asks them where a specific item is or people in every day life always focusing on something negative and pointing out what they don’t like

Exactly! But they keep complaining even though they don’t know what the real struggle is like

I’m wondering why my post gets such negative reception here in “Ask Lemmy” but has the exact opposite perception that’s way more positive in other communities such as over at “No Stupid Question”. I wonder if there’s something about this community?

I probably should’ve specified Germany in particular since I can relate from local experience. I have never been to France so far unfortunately. So maybe it’s mainly just Germany.

What I mean is complaining about banal/small things. It’s obvious to complain if actual bad things happen such as war. Idk where you are from but here in northern Germany people constantly complain about every little thing such as the weather, grocery prices, migrants and the list goes on and on and we don’t have things like wars going on.

It’s the types of things people complain about that I don’t understand. Imo other people who have serious issues are definitely entitled to complain. But if someone has a high quality life and constantly complains about small things and thereby constantly spreads negativity it seems unnecessary to me.

I think it doesn’t cost anything if I approach a place or person and point out something positive instead of complaining that they didn’t build the building properly or whatever…

That’s true. But I definitely also encounter loads of complaining irl and rarely see people being positive. At least here in northern Germany there are so many people that seem to constantly focus on the negative and search for things they can complain about. It’s almost like their every day habit. Instead of going outside and pointing out something positive they just always have stuff to criticize

Oh yea my bad I think I now understand what you mean. Online the majority is definitely English but I think if you look into each country locally like Germany you will see that they also constantly complain irl in German and not just online. That’s what I meant