Its a lot more than the tiny incel community that is having trouble dating. The truth is most men don’t date anymore, they don’t even attempt to date. Its not about their expectations but the result of lived experiences as well as the culture they find themselves in.
There’s no pain from rejection if you never try, and without family members encouraging them to date or friends setting them up on blind dates there’s no actual reason to try. Relationships simply aren’t worth the risk or pain. Instead just hang out, watch porn to take care of basic needs, and never admit loneliness is a feeling; it probably won’t work out well for humanity but it works out well enough individually.
Have you actually tried taking unrepentant time off, where you have no work or social obligations, and grabbing unhealthy snacks and drinks, curling up with a good game, and zoning out of reality for hours or days at a time?
Sex is nice and all, and we’re hard wired to like it more than most activities, but it does not hold a single candle to unrepentant free time when you’re not used to said free time.