• Miles O'Brien@startrek.website
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      Neither the question nor the answer should ever be a surprise.

      The time, and location of proposal are the surprise.

      When I asked my now wife, I knew for sure she was going to say yes, and I knew she would want a simple ring with her birth stone instead of a diamond.

      She had no idea I was going to ask her in the manner I did while we were out camping. that was the surprise for her. Not the question itself.

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      Nope. If the question was a surprise then your communication skills as a couple aren’t there yet.

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        The timing can be a surprise, but if you don’t know the answer, don’t ask the question.

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      Engagement is the initiation of marriage, they are the same. So your sentence doesn’t make sense