If anyone can find more pixels for me i would appreciate it.

Thanks y’all.

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    18 hours ago

    A lot of trans femmes myself included cannot see ‘guys’ as gender neutral no matter how hard we try and so do not like it.

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      I have regularly called groups of females “you guys” since childhood. It’s extremely neutral in a lot of the country.

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        Okay, but not everybody is going to be comfortable with it and so are you saying you would not change your speech for them?

        Also which country?

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          The US. And yes, I will continue to use the phrase “you guys” because it’s a phrase that means “you people”. I can’t anticipate every illogical thing that will offend people. If someone called me out on it in person I would try not to use the phrase to address them specifically but I would also think they were being very silly.

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            It always confuses me when people say ‘offend’ people, because usually it is not offense they feel etc.

            Well, that’s not a very fair way of treating/thinking of people, some people are going to be hurt or upset by certain things and it’s better to understand that we all have emotions and they are not pointless just because you see no value in them i.e. ‘illogical’. It’s better to work together and find ways of communicating that aren’t genuinely hurtful ioo.

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      People who claim “guys” is gender neutral would most often only count men when asked the question “How many guys did you sleep with in your life?”

      Until I find a single person who immediately thinks of people of any gender at that question, I will not fall for the internalized misogyny of “‘guys’ is gender neutral” meme. (Same with “dudes” and all the other ones I’ve seen over the years. I’ve even seen someone say “bro” is gender neutral.)