Daughter and this classmate of hers have been dating since August. She told us him & his whole family are Scientologists. I’m not going to lie, I didn’t know anything about it until she mentioned it, my first thought was “oh, they believe in science? That’s cool”. Then I looked it up online… and I still don’t understand anything. Most sources say it’s a bad thing, but I don’t get what it’s all actually about, as in doctrine, beliefs, activities, etc. I don’t even understand if it’s an actual religion or one of those pay-to-level-up self-care courses. One of the most confusing things I’ve ever read about. So if anyone could explain it straight to the point, I’d be very grateful.
Or even better, she’s already being manipulated and scientology are GOOD at it while you are just yet another concerned relative they can easily cut off your daughter’s life.
Get her out, even against her better judgement if she is a minor, but honestly even if she is not.
If the guy is renouncing Scientology, MAYBE, he can stay.
Allowing a person to think for themselves is always the best option.
But allowing her to accept scientology should not be an option, and isn’t what I was suggesting.
I simply assume that OP, looking into scientology with a critical eye, is likely to have a good relationship with their daughter. And that the daughter being of dating age, and the offspring of someone seemingly reasonable, they are both capable of having an adult conversation. One that won’t end with their daughter going “fuck you, I’m cutting you out of my life forever” but rather with their daughter accepting reality and intergrating the facts into her mind in a way where they can’t be easily subverted.
If that isn’t the case, then the heavy handed approach is absolutely warranted.