Yeeesh… I’m not sure if that’s the kind of message you want to send… Imagine someone who’s in a position where they can’t transition reading that, you’re basically telling them that right now they’re a huge loser that should die…
The joke is that they already think that about themselves. The suicide rate for trans people, especially those who can’t transition, is extremely high.
When I realized I was trans I knew I had no choice but to do it, damn the consequences, because I could see the other option would only lead to my death in a pit of despair and self-hatred.
I know it’s higher than average, but reinforcing the feeling that suicide might be the best thing they could do because the person they are before transitioning is the biggest loser ever and people should be glad that they’re dead? I don’t think that’s ok.
True, but I don’t think this post is likely to push anyone over the edge, and that really has more to do with the lethality of their situation than the use of self-deprecating humour to reach people.
As someone who’s been there, this whole line of reasoning just feels like pearl-clutching.
idk there’s a number of reasons why someone could choose to detransiton or delay transition, even for many years because they see no other way to survive. They’re still people and their lives are still valuable
it feels a bit like the ableist “fate worse than death” “would rather die than end up like that” stuff that disabled people have to hear occasionally. Like yes, some people do live in a compromised state! It sucks but it’s life
Them describing their experience is perfectly ok, them doing it in a way that might make someone going through the same experience feel like shit about themself isn’t.
Yeeesh… I’m not sure if that’s the kind of message you want to send… Imagine someone who’s in a position where they can’t transition reading that, you’re basically telling them that right now they’re a huge loser that should die…
The joke is that they already think that about themselves. The suicide rate for trans people, especially those who can’t transition, is extremely high.
When I realized I was trans I knew I had no choice but to do it, damn the consequences, because I could see the other option would only lead to my death in a pit of despair and self-hatred.
I know it’s higher than average, but reinforcing the feeling that suicide might be the best thing they could do because the person they are before transitioning is the biggest loser ever and people should be glad that they’re dead? I don’t think that’s ok.
The post isn’t really advocating suicide, though. It is pointing out an alternative.
Sure, but as I mentioned in my first comment, not everyone is in a position where they can seek the alternative
True, but I don’t think this post is likely to push anyone over the edge, and that really has more to do with the lethality of their situation than the use of self-deprecating humour to reach people.
As someone who’s been there, this whole line of reasoning just feels like pearl-clutching.
You’re really working hard to miss the point here. I can’t help feeling that it’s on purpose.
idk there’s a number of reasons why someone could choose to detransiton or delay transition, even for many years because they see no other way to survive. They’re still people and their lives are still valuable
it feels a bit like the ableist “fate worse than death” “would rather die than end up like that” stuff that disabled people have to hear occasionally. Like yes, some people do live in a compromised state! It sucks but it’s life
*trans person describes personal experience
“No! You might make other people feel bad by describing your existence!”
Them describing their experience is perfectly ok, them doing it in a way that might make someone going through the same experience feel like shit about themself isn’t.