Thank goodness this never happened to me cause my parents were good parents, it’s just as much the childrens home as the parents and children should be allowed to say “I don’t feel comfortable with another man or woman living hear” Its the parents responsibility to make sure their children are comfortable and feel safe around a new adult. The parent should plan a public meet and greet parent, child, step and after each one the children should have the right to say no more and it end there.
Or what?
Don’t be surprised when they don’t talk to you when grown up or ask to live with the other parent because you are prioritizing your new partner over your literal children. Also violating their consent.
Real life isn’t that simple. Parents stop being able to take care of themselves and move in.
Your sister gets a really bad disability and becomes unable to work therefore afford a room.
These kind of situations are more common than you’d think.
It’s not as simple as everything being a choice.
People take care of each other, they move in together. The problem is not people moving in without the kids approval. It’s parents neglecting them or the person moving in not treating the kid right.
That’s a good point, I guess I’d add that it’s fine to keep seeing them or even to allow them over for dinner or to game night, but giving children time to get to know them and like them before officially moving in.