He’s always wore sketchers. Like since he was 4. Recently, he got really emotionally taking about shoes he wanted for middle school. He said if he doesn’t get Nikes he’s going to get teased. Great fucking marketing work Nike.

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    I always knew shoes weren’t going to save my kids from bullying, so I got them karate instead.

    The bullying still happened, until they decided it was time for it to stop. Then it stopped.

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      I don’t have kids, but I do have a brother who is young enough to be my child, and I was very happy when he broke the nose of his bully.

      That motherfucker had to learn.

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        There was some anxiety on my part when my middle child told me he punched his bully in the high school cafeteria. I had felt his punches through a heavy-duty punching shield, and I assumed it would lead to criminal or civil cases. However, when I asked if the bully was ok, he said he pulled the punch.

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      That sounds like your kids responded in a way that every karate club teaches against.

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        Every serious bullying incident I ran into growing up ended when a kid got popped in the mouth. Every unserious bullying incident made no impact when I knew if it got serious, I could pop them in the mouth and likely come out on top.

        I’ve met way too many adults with personality issues that were a product of adults telling child them “physical violence is always wrong, just tell an adult, be the bigger person” etc. It always needs to be taught as a last resort, and it needs to be understood that even justified violence comes with consequences and other tools must be used first, but when you’ve done everything you’re supposed to and no one is helping to the resolve the problem, sometimes you have to do it yourself.

        It ain’t pretty, and it ain’t ideal, but it’s the way it is.