Some people care more about money and titles than personal well being. And there’s nothing wrong with that, for THEM.

By demoting yourself, THEY think that you are now less of a person than you were before because you don’t have any extra letters after your name.

But really, a 2% pay difference is nothing, and you’re essentially making the same money to do an easier, less stressful job that results in YOU being healthier than before. They might actually be a little jealous.

They don’t need to understand your decision, it’s YOUR decision, not theirs. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

If being an RN is stressing you out so much that you can’t sleep (completely understandable because that’s an extremely emotionally and mentally taxing position) then your only options really are to find a different job as you did, or perhaps have regular therapy sessions to help you through it. With your training, you can definitely find less stressful positions such as a nurse educator, consulting, public health sector. Maybe you could ask your former colleagues with a bit more experience if they know of any positions that would be less stressful for you.

I would be concerned that I’m locking myself out of potential future career advancement and the possibility that you’re going to be stuck on a bed mover salary for the rest of your career

Honestly, 2% cut is nothing. If you like your new job better for whatever reason, less stressful, more fulfilling, whatever, 2% is less than nothing, your personal life matters and should weight in.

I don’t know about your career paths, but I could see it being a problem if there was opportunity to grow in the old job but not on the new one. But everything else being the same, an insignificant pay cut to do something you like significantly more is a win in my book.

i’m not a medical professional but i spent months in multiple hospital rooms providing care for a parent. they had dementia and needed more care than the staff could provide. I was often there round the clock. I saw a small sliver of what nurses go through.

i can tell you that good nurses are extremely valuable. i won’t say rare but … yeah, they’re rare. the good they do for patients and the families that really need them can’t be measured in money. but it should be. they’re worth way more than the salary they get.

from the perspective of other caregivers/medical professionals, yeah it’s a shame they and those families you would’ve helped have lost you. but that’s not your fault and it’s not your responsibility. you owe yourself health above anyone else.

so yeah. they’re right that it’s “a shame”. but the shame isn’t yours, it’s the systems for undervaluing your worth by so much that they don’t pay you enough or give you enough time to recuperate and heal from the tremendously traumatic job that I know nursing can be.

as a caregiver who was asked by multiple nurses if I had medical training after watching me with my family member, good for you. I’m also sorry for those families that missed out on you but I’m so happy you’ve found a way to support yourself and be well.

bless you for everything you’ve done and fly high in whatever you choose to do next. take care of yourself.

I dont know what these jobs are like. If you have less stress in your current job, thats an important point, but maybe not a decisive factor… Have you asked those “smarter” people why they think thats a bad decision?

It may be that people are bothered by seeing someone take decisions differently than they do, they might feel their own decisions being implicitly questioned, so they might be reacting in a way that reaffirms their own values.

If you ask them to express what is stupid about you decision you may get a better feeling for if they actually have a point or if theyre just reacting badly out of their personal insecurities or smthing.

Maybe they also want a less stressful job, but dont have the courage to face the loss in prestige/status/money, even if that woukd grant them better quality of life. Who knows…

Essentially what everyone else in this thread has said already but mental health > money/career prestige IMO.

In my line of work I constantly get told I’m underutilized and people always tell me I should be x or y. The thing is x and y do not align with my morals and I know I would be miserable in those jobs. I know I’d be very good at them and I understand people think they’re giving me a compliment, but I have always just wanted to have a job where I could pay my bills (which I can right now) and not have my career consume my life (which I do right now). If I went into one of the other types of jobs, the likelihood that my work/life balance would be skewed is high, or I’d be put into a position in my work where I’m enacting things that I am not comfortable with. I made my decision for myself, and if I want to “waste” my skills, that’s my fucking choice and they need to leave me tf alone.

Anyway, all that to say, fuck those guys and fuck the capitalistic hierarchial bullshit that states that your job defines your worth. You do you.

Edit: literally as soon as I posted this, went back to my feed and this was the next post

If I remember correctly you also had big issues with your co-workers in you old position. I tell you I have made myself do more more than few times I sure wish I had done less.

You are your own career manager. Make the decisions you feel are best.

If you are happy where you are and are making enough to see to your financial needs, why would you change that?

Is it possible that this position that you are in could cease to exist?

Who cares what other people say/think. Do what you feel is best for you.

I’ve decided to turn down supervisory positions because for me, for pay increase is marginal, while the increase in responsibility and stress is high. No thanks. If people think I’m stupid for that, the they can go fuck themselves.

If you’re happy you’re happy (<3 from another RN)

I’ve worked for the same company for about twenty years. I’m still rank and file because I’ve repeatedly turned down supervisory roles. Like in your situation, the pay for the more stressful job isn’t much better and comes with a lot more responsibility.

Instead, I negotiated to get myself off the rota system and onto fixed hours. I am the only member of staff outside of upper management who’s on fixed hours. Literally everyone else works shifts. Middle management don’t like that, but I consistently perform well on whatever plausible metrics they dream up, I’m generally well-liked, also they can’t get rid of me because I know where the bodies are buried*.

In summary: I believe you’ve made the right choice, because I made a similar one. But it’s not my choice. The choice is yours alone.

*this is a metaphor for institutional knowledge, as far as I know there are no bodies buried in the old trolley shed behind the Inpost locker

Do you owe them something? If you are happier in your new job, isnt that the first priority? Also, more educated people arent necessarily smarter than you. And even if they are, the main thing is are those people worthy of your trust? I would rather trust an idiot that genuinely wishes me well than extremely smart person that has been mean to me. Have they treated you well and given you good advice before? Have they made your work experience better?

And finally, compare the payment your get now and you got on your old job. Is the difference worth the increased stress and bad sleep?

Though also consider how it will affect your future career, but you could also try looking for better work elsewhere while staying in your current work in the meantime. You should always put your own wellbeing over your job, that is how it goes otherway around too.

You haven’t done anything wrong at all. Just maintain your license though! There are SO many non-floor nursing jobs. Outpt, procedural, surgical, administrative, informatics, etc etc.

The floor is hell. Basically everybody who leaves inpt will never go back. Other jobs are so much better.

So all I’m saying is keep your options open. Don’t go back to nursing if you don’t like it, but if you let your license lapse you may regret it in the future.

I’d just try to understand why they feel that way to make sure you aren’t missing anything.

Is it the pay cut? 20% sounds pretty significant to me but 2% isn’t, but in the end if you are making enough to live the way you want that’s all you need.

Is it the career path options? That can be more complicated, but if there’s nothing you would want from “climbing the ladder” that’s up to you.