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      A 6 year old riding his bike so far away from his mom they had to call her and wait for her to show up?

      100% fake. 6 years olds are about when most kids start taking their training wheels off. They aren’t going off on solo excursions.

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        Didn’t say which country, here 6 yo definitely ride their bikes alone. At least when it’s like town center where cars normally aren’t even allowed.

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          Lol don’t bother, most north Americans will never understand. In my city a father had to fight in court for years for the right to let his 3 kids ride the bus alone. He was at risk of losing his kids for daring to teach them to be independent before they were old enough to drive.

          We don’t even have spaces where a six year old could bike alone safely. Our cities fucking suck.

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    Happy for them but I could never see myself raising another person’s kids. Hell, I don’t even want my own kids to raise.

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          Even if they’re your biological kid, you get “I hate you! You’re ruining my life!” before they steal your car. I don’t know that that’s much better. And it’s about as true.

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      I know it’s a modern thing to wait many years before marriage, but living with someone for a year is plenty of time to know who they are as a person. Most people need to shit or get off the pot at that point but they don’t because apathy is easier.

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    Once women hit 30 or so they’ve known their share of shitheads and losers and most just want a decent guy if they’re single. From what I hear the dating landscape for women at 40+ is absolutely bleak.

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      My Facebook is a graveyard of single 30 something friends who dumped dozens of great guys because they didn’t tick every box on a 100 item checklist. Now they’re panicking because their clock is ticking and no one wants them because they’re shallow and desperate. A few have settled but it’s clear they’re both miserable. No one wants to feel like the 76th best option.

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      Ya, my wife’s best friend is over 40 and her standards for a guy are like the bare minimum of being an acceptable person. Its sad because she is One of the most beautiful, intelligent, and kind women I’ve ever met.

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    First off great title. Secondly, does anyone else read the first letter of each line to make sure that don’t get John cenad or some stupid bullshit too?

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    Hope you don’t get too attached to kids that aren’t yours anon. You have no custody or parental rights and are one big fight away from having them exit your life. Or like, the return of the original Chad who decided to get cleaned up and even years later, you know she’ll forgive the father of her children.

    Being a substitute dad is a huge mistake, but i guess someone’s gotta do it. I certainly wouldn’t.

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      You have no custody or parental rights

      Also no obligations. He can get divorced and not have to worry about paying child support.

      Or he can choose to adopt them, which would grant those custody and paternal rights.

      Would you be looking at this differently if the children weren’t hers? If she had no kids, Anon was shooting blanks, and they just decided to go to an orphanage and adopt?

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        It’s not about what you’re obligated to, it’s about the emotional attachment to children that won’t necessarily remain in your life.

        As for adoption, you try that with a person you’ve known for a year or less, see how that works out for you. But yes, if they agree, then sure, i think adoption is fair.

        What is not fair is having someone responsible for and bonding with your kids, regardless of gender, and never giving them parenrsl rights.

        If they adopted kids it would be their kids, so no issue.