• Colonel Sanders@lemmy.world
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    I must be weird, or maybe it’s because I used to date someone like Grey, but the impression I got about green is not that they said that because they didn’t want to go out anyway, it was that they were glad grey revealed themselves to be uninterested in them even if it was kind of in a sleazeball way, acting like it was just fine to cancel last minute to go be with someone else.

    More like green was happy grey pretty much just sent up a red flag and confirmed that they dodged a bullet.

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      Was that not the point we were supposed to take away from this?!

      Love your chicken, by the way.

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    Although rude, I appreciate when people tell me outright I’m not a priority for them. So I can adjust my own.

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    Who’s in the wrong here?

    Everyone in this thread who is too stupid to realize this is fake rage bait.

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      As is your comment. Rage bait within rage bait. Meta rage bait. Ragebaitception. Ragebaiturducken. I see you.

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    I don’t get why people are confused about this.

    Grey was horrible human being first. Green’s reply was a response that horribleness. It’s not like green was genuinely waiting to spring that.

    …probably.

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    Grey didn’t value Green’s time, even stated someone better came along. Green responded with shade in response for this lack of respect, Grey had a crash out because her lesser choice had teeth.

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        This is an /r/SipsTea male rage bait post, of course the chuds think it’s about them.

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        I mean, for most of the post they tried not to and a single “her” fell out. Something to consider.

        I feel it is an interesting question though. I too assigned genders while reading this the first time so is it naturally ingrained in me? Or is it because of the first person POV of text message exchanges like this?

        Are women reading this and assuming the other way around? Would a different format (eg changing the bubbles to other side, or paragraph format like in a novel) change who we think is which gender?

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          I try to be impartial, but each misstep online gets hammered on hard because apparently you need to be perfect for the imperfect themselves. Changing now would just be admitting to something i"m not so you cannot win. Shrugs I do my best and try to not let small mistakes turn into mountains.

          As well I see other people posting the grey is female initially so that might have influenced me and I didn’t see anyone else calling them out.

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    Greens response could’ve meant (s)he had a busy day at work and was glad to put their feet up. The bluntness met have been unintended.

    Grey then exploded and made it a problem, showing that green actually dodged a bullet.

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    Neither one is someone I want to talk to but grey really should’ve just put the phone down and focused on that promising opportunity

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      I don’t think grey actually has another “opportunity”. This feels like a negging tactic to me.

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          If I understand it correctly, it’s the use of negative framing of another person’s physical attributes or demeanor, constructed in the hope the receiver of the “negging” has low enough self-esteem to agree with the assessment and will assume the asshole is a person of higher intrinsic worth.

          There might be more to it, but I usually just think of it as a form of reverse psychology + emotional abuse.

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      I hope they got in such a tizzy over this that it ruined their “plans with someone else” cause they showed up all sour.

      Dating culture is so toxic, I’m glad it’s just me and my cat these days…

  • But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
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    I hate people now. Nobody wants to keep their commitments. You can invite people to an event and they will all say yes, until a more enticing thing comes along and the flake on you last minute. If you say yes, be there, tell the other person “sorry I already made plans that day” like an adult

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      For me the issue is that everyone is always busy.

      Me: hey, how about we meet next Friday

      Person1: I can only do Sunday from 17 to 19

      Person2: I can only do Saturday

      Person3: I can do Sunday but from 19 to 21

      Person4: I can only do the Friday after that

      Or even better, they take 5 days to reply and in the end say something came up.

      But once I manage to find the one date that fits most people and plan something people do show up.

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          Most of the time it’s not like they are meeting other people. The commitments are like family visits every other week, traveling, studying, fixing something at home and so on. Occasionally it’s some birthday party or something. It’s mostly that everyone is busy all the time. Which I do understand but it takes a lot of of effort to organize something.

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            Studying and fixing something at home I can see, those you typically move around as needed. The other are prior commitments that you don’t.

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          You mean doodle? It still exists but since polls are literally built into every messaging app now, its obsolete. It could be relevant if you have a one-time meeting with people who dont know each other and dont have a common messaging app.

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          Don’t remember the name but I used it couple of times in corpo settings. I think it weird that we have to organize meetings with couple of friends the same way we organized team buildings. I mean, weekends are for resting. Why everyone has everything booked months in advance? I spend every weekend actively but I don’t have a lot of plans that I can’t drop to meet someone.

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      I for one will not invite you for anything if I don’t want to do it with you. I also will not accept an invitation to do anything that I don’t want to do with you. I greatly enjoy my own company and have a lot of things I love to do by myself. More people would be happier if they would learn to like themselves and found some hobbies.