If this happened to you you should probably stay away from those people and find your self a better match. Ofcourse I might be overshooting because I don’t have enough context.
If you get told to shut up enough times you get the “Are you shy? Why do you never talk about yourself or what you like?” achievement.
I think it’s that someone unknown is interesting to people because you could be anything, but as soon as you start talking about arch linux you’ve shown your hand and it’s not intriguing anymore.
I’ll tell you what I told my kid after they explained to me the differences between Raphael and Leonardo TMNT’s for the 30th time in two days.
it’s good to be excited about a topic that interests you, but don’t expect others to not only not reciprocate but not share in that excitement.
it’s nothing personal, it’s nothing against your topic of choice. sometimes a topic that excites you won’t excite everyone for multiple reasons.
now please stop yelling in my face about turtles.
Fuck this was my childhood right there
Same, though being exited or enthusiastic about anything was permanently killed off back then.
Same. I hope you made it past those toxic fucks and found happiness. Consider yourself hugged.
Thanks dude x
Same. Also my first long term relationship (which was awful in many other ways)
Gotta work on not letting other people’s negativity infect you. Someone who says mean things like that to you is only airing their own demons
I would legit laugh in their face and keep on keeping on.
When people tell you who they are, listen. And as needed, toss them aside.
This, there’s billions of people and billions of places to be being. If somewhere is unpleasant I just go somewhere new. That said if I find myself in similar experiences repeatedly then I definitely need to analyze myself and what I’m doing to create those moments.
And if you discover that its because you’re autistic, try to forgive yourself for your social deficiencies and forgive others for misinterpreting those deficiencies as intentional or careless acts.
I mean if it’s because of some untreatable issue, yeah I guess there would only be so much to do about it. Sidebar, I thought transcranial magnetic stimulation was useful for some forms of autism but I really haven’t heard much about it in a long time. Maybe its efficacy was questionable.
Yeah im not gonna microwave my brain so people feel more comfortable around me.
The cases that I’ve seen are very positive. One patient described it as living life in black and white and someone turned on the color aka there was a new depth to their experience of life. Generally it’s not like a lobotomy. Also useful for drug resistant depression in some cases.
My wife, an elementary school teacher, told me about this phenomenon where the kids would get really excited about doing something and for some practical reason she had to tell them they couldn’t do it. She hated to see “their little shoulders fall.” We noticed our own kids doing the shoulder thing when we had to cancel plans, ran out of ice cream or whatever. It’s a very deflated gesture.
Shut up this is too much text. Next time add a few onomatopoeias.
I don’t understand this comment, or why it’s getting so douchevoted. Oh well.
Boom! ZING! Pewpewpew!
Being the youngest in a big family, this happened to me constantly. I have now become a recluse and feel bad about myself when I have almost any social interaction where I get excited about something.
Yeah, feels better not to bother friends, in-case they will get annoyed and bored too.
“Fuck you, let people enjoy things”
Unless they derive their joy from belittling others.
Don’t forget being called “obsessed”
Had this happen so much I just started doing it to myself unconsciously lol
I’m sad now. Sending love and hope you killed that inner bully.
I still remember my group of friends in elementary school back when Pokémon was getting very popular.
One of the kids was so genuinely nice, a bigger kid who was obsessed with both Star Trek and the Honey I Shrunk series of movies. But he would talk about Star Trek a lot more. One day he was talking about it, probably a new episode of New Generation and one of my other friends turned to him and said, “Can you shut up about Star Trek? We’re all into Pokémon now. No one cares about that crap.”
You could just see the look of sadness on that kid’s face. I hate that I didn’t speak up for him. Everyone else went silent too. Then he started talking about Pikachu and trying to relate to Pokémon instead of what he wanted to talk about :/
He was just excited and trying to connect with the people he felt close to…
Wow that one friend was a dick
:(
Replace that with rage. Telling someone to go fuck themselves is always an option, and sometimes appropriate
I’m pretty sure I would start laughing.
I don’t need anyone to tell me that to feel that way. I just do that on my own.
I mean, possibly because someone did it to you enough growing up?
Learned early on to keep go at it alone for this reason.
It also made sure that I look down at those people now with contempt.
