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Cake day: August 4th, 2023

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  • If you’re depressed, your brain is lying to you. This in particular is exactly the type of lie a depressed brain tells:

    …i can’t be the boyfriend you want…

    (Even if there is truth to it, understand that your brain is blowing it way out of purportion.)

    What’s important:

    • Take care of yourself to the extent you can. Get as close to enough sleep as you can. Get sunlight. Try not to imbibe in recreational drugs (including booze.) Not that that will cure you necessarily, but it can mitigate the depression a bit and help you have more strength with which to…
    • Seek help. Talk to your GP. They might refer you to a psychiatrist or someone. Whatever results, it’s incredible how much that can help.
    • If you’re already availing yourself of mental health help, talk to your provider about your current mental state. Show them your post.


  • I worked at a place whose policy was that you had to give four weeks notice to get your vacation paid out.

    I remember getting the call from the place I was going to where they gave me the offer. I said yes and they asked when I would start. They said “well, you probably have to give like two weeks notice so that would put us at such-and-such date” and I had to tell them that no, I had to give four weeks notice. I remember them being surprised that that was a thing.

    At the place I was leaving, I also had a real asshole boss. He decided randomly that we were slacking off or some shit and started demanding 7:00am demoes every day. (I wrote software there.) When I’d secured a position elsewhere, I pulled the boss aside and gave him my 4-week notice. I was the tech lead and lead architect and basically in-charge-guy on the team of only 4 people for “Big Project™”. The boss had arbitrarily made up a due date for “Big Project™” and promised that timeline to the managers over him over my team’s objections. By the time I quit, the arbitrary deadline had already passed and he was getting pressured. With me gone, it was doomed to slip much later still.

    The asshole boss asked me why and I ended up telling him – politely – exactly all the problems I had with him. That and leaving him in the lurch of his own making were kinda cathartic, honestly.

    The asshole boss got fired on a “do not pass go, do not clear out your desk, security will escort you out” basis after I left. As if I wasn’t already overdosing on schadenfreude. What exactly he did to get fired is the subject of rumor only. I heard someone say he called the CTO incompetent and promised to replace him in a meeting with lots of people. Another rumor involved a possible affair with someone else high up in the IT department.

    Whatever the case, I think it was more awkward for asshole boss than for me. But he deserved it.







  • My first thought was something along the lines of a “zip bomb”. For every “M” in the input string, it’d use more than a KiB of memory. But still, it’d take a string of millions of "M"s to exhaust memory on even a low-end modern server. Still probably not a good idea to expose to untrusted input on a public networked server, though. And it could easily peg a CPU core for a good while. Very good leveraged target for DDOSing.