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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Currently yes, but the cost of beans is going to continue to increase as climate change worsens. We’ve already seen disruptions in harvests and price hikes due to this. We’ll see how it shakes out in the long run for total cost increase.

    Also, if we’re comparing buying an energy drink on the go vs a cup of coffee on the go, energy drinks are already much cheaper. The convenience aspect shouldn’t be ignored. Generally though, I agree, buying a coffee every day is for suckers.


  • Conspiracy theory brain goes: This meme trend has to be an attempt at manufacturing consent to reduce caffeine consumption due to rising coffee prices due to climate change. That way when coffee is phased out, it doesn’t cause a huge outrage and is just seen as a thing only addicts use and it falls into the same “moral failing” BS as any other addiction because we all need to be “healthier”.

    I don’t think that’s it though because there are plenty of energy drink companies trying to pick up former coffee drinkers who are looking for lower cost alternatives.




  • Find a hobby you’re interested in if you don’t have one already. Find a group in your area that meets up to discuss or engage in that hobby in person. Make friends with the people in that group by just existing around them and talking about your shared interest. Maybe one of those friendships turns into a relationship, maybe not.

    Don’t think of the people there as potential partners but as people you like spending time with and genuinely enjoy being around. If one of those friendships has mutual attraction and becomes a partnership, that’s great! If not, you’ll probably meet other people through them and maybe one of those will turn into a relationship.

    Examples of hobbies for introverts that provide more structure for interaction and can have limited talking if needed:

    • Boardgames / dueling card games like Netrunner / tabletop roleplaying games
    • Pinball
    • Video games fighting games or speed running communities are more widespread for in person events
    • Book clubs
    • Hiking, rolling skating, skateboarding, tennis, pickleball, basketball, soccer, bicycling, running, or swimming if you want to get some exercise



  • Have you heard of face blindness? I have kind of the same thing but with cars. As long as it’s the same color, they all look more or less the same to me unless they have bumper stickers. I also travel a lot for work, so I’m constantly getting new rentals that are all a bit different, so I never remember what I’m driving.

    Those factors combined with having a poor awareness of where I am in physical space and time most days has caused me to get into the wrong car way more times than I’d like to admit. I’m just going to say it’s well into the double digits.

    It’s kind of surprising how many people just leave their cars completely unlocked. I always lock mine, and when the door just opens after I hit the button to unlock my car, I assume I’m getting into the right one until it feels wrong when I sit down or if I try to put the key in the ignition and it doesn’t fit. The number of times this has happened would be higher if more people didn’t lock their cars. I quickly realize it’s the wrong car if I try to unlock it and it doesn’t unlock.







  • It perpetuates the myth of recycling and puts the onus on the consumer and state to recycle instead of the corporations to stop using containers that pollute the environment, will be in the environment for decades without breaking down, and is likely causing yet unknown harm in our bodies since plastic is inside all of us now.

    The first of the “3 R’s” is reduce but instead of that being the focus because it hurts their bottom line, they prop up recycling and sell the lie that we can keep living as is if we just recycle more and get better at recycling.


  • As a long time zip-up wearer and supporter, how is the pull-over better? I always find it way more annoying to put on and take off.

    It’s like putting on an extra shirt that then clings to your first shirt whenever you want to take it off so you have to work harder to not flash everyone when you take it off. For the zip-up, it just wraps around you and zips up. It’s easy on, easy off.




  • There are a lot of different types of poly relationship structures and different names for them. The base unit of relationship is a standard couple where 2 people are together. Add another person in and they can either be in a relationship with only one of those people and form a “hinge” aka “V” or be in a relationship with both of those people and form a “triad” aka “throuple”. As many people as those involved consent to can be added this way.

    Most of the time it’s one person who is in a relationship with multiple people who are each in relationships with multiple people. This forms a “polycule”. Where you have the people you’re in relationships with aka your “paramours” and they have the people they’re in relationships with aka your “metamours”. This group of relationships can take many forms and can be drawn out into a cool diagram like a molecule, hence the name polycule.

    The people you’re in a relationship with can break up with you like in any other relationship and vice versa. It’s more complicated when you add in housing situations if you’re all living together, multiple people are all dating each other, or if two people are married.

    Using one of my breakups as an example:
    I’ve been in a triad where one person broke up with the other. I was then put in the middle of their breakup drama. I set a boundary of not wanting to deal with their drama/shit talking of the other. One of them kept breaking that boundary, so I broke up with that person while still being in a relationship with the other. Luckily I was living with the person I stayed with or that would’ve been way more complicated.


  • During hostile ignorance:

    • I had to leave the state I grew up in to get into a place I could access medical care, get away from an unaccepting family, and get into a place I wasn’t afraid of being attacked while transitioning (being visibly trans till HRT kicked in).
    • Trans panic was seen as more of a valid defence back then for killing trans people.
    • I think we were seen as more of a curiosity/fetish than people, but that’s debatable since that’s definitely still an issue.
    • People were more afraid of being visibly trans and finding community outside of forums was harder.
    • I was certain I’d lose my job when I inevitably had to come out and had prepared for it by saving up enough to get me through finding another job. I was amazed when that didn’t happen and most of the company accepted me. I still had to deal with harassment that nowadays would probably get those people fired.

    During hostile attention:

    • I had to leave my home due to the state no longer ignoring us and focusing on passing laws to make our lives more difficult.
    • I know a ton of trans people and have a stronger support network. Finding others is easier now.
    • Medical care is easier to get now if you aren’t living in one of the states currently trying to ban HRT.
    • Parents seem a little more accepting but it’s still divisive
    • I’m less afraid of the average person fucking with me in most areas of the US
    • I’m afraid of government attempts to round myself or loved ones up into camps within the next few years.

    Generally, I prefer the visibility and broader social acceptance we have now. More people know about us, so more people hate us but way more people accept us. I see it as how being gay was in the aughts. More people were out and it was less of a big deal even though there was still a lot of hate crimes against gay people. Now it’s way more accepted outside of ultra conservative areas. I’m hoping we are more accepted within a decade instead of being rounded up and killed en masse.