My parents are difficult. Not the worst people and not monsters, but at many times unpleasant.
Plus it was a house in the suburbs. Not ideal for socializing or culture.
And lastly, living with parents in the suburbs would be huge negatives for dating.
“Top-down mandates to use large language models are crazy,” one employee told Wired. “If the tool were good, we’d all just use it.”
Yep.
Management is often out of touch and full of shit
I don’t like to think of people as immutably good or bad, but I get what you meant.
There’s a bunch of factors.
So, someone who lies, is cruel, doesn’t care about anyone else, and leaves the world a mess is being a pretty bad person.
Someone who just keeps their head down, goes to work, and is polite to people they meet is kind of middling.
It’s always been pretty bad for large chunks of the population. This seems like a low point, but there have been many lows in living memory. Civil rights movement in the 60s. Vietnam war. War on drugs. Countless cruelties done to non-whites and queer folks.
Even the idealized stuff of “buy a house on one income” was more for white people than anything else. Redlining, mortgage discrimination, “and then the white people burned down our house” were all realities.
This country has always been deeply racist. The wealthy ownership class has largely been soulless ghouls. Maybe they build libraries and museums for a while, but they still oversaw tremendous suffering and poverty.
This was a favorite for a long time, by the high water marks: https://thehighwatermarks.bandcamp.com/track/suicide
It feels like suicide or something worse
I’ve got this curse on me
It seems I only dream about the things
that shouldn’t come to be
always I try to find a way it feels
it seems to real to me
I just can’t let it go
I’ll let you know
Just what it means to me
As days go past and it all moves too fast
And I won’t think about it
And when I do it all comes back to you
And I don’t want to change that
Markdown fornatting is really tedious to do on the phone so I’m not going to fix that more.
But the song sounds upbeat, but it’s lyrics are a sad loop they want to break and also don’t want to.
41.3 / 50
Kind of hard, but partly confounded by not knowing the best way to use the sliders. Once you start messing around and seeing other colors, I start forgetting the original.
From the copy I thought it would be harder, and more people would be scoring badly, but the comments here seem to show most people near my score. But maybe only people who did well are commenting.
Yeah, I was going to say I saw almost this exact joke recently. That was the other one I saw.
Editing is a power not all people should be trusted with.
You all know at least one person (or are the person) who would text a yes/no like “Did you see Dave today?” and then when you write “yeah” edit their message to “Can I borrow your car?” or something you wouldn’t have said yes to.
Meetup.com ? They’re still around.
One problem is users are selfish idiots. They won’t go somewhere that doesn’t already have a lot of users. They don’t care that going there now moves it closer to having a lot of users, so in a few months it’ll be good and vibrant. Most people can’t even think an hour ahead.
Another problem is that there are many scammers and bad actors. You need to deal with them, and convince your real users that the scammers are dealt with.
Lastly, in this capitalist hellscape everything is expensive. How are you going to run a big service that’s got low latency and high quality?
Sure, could be. They didn’t have any automated checks, and I saw errors like “that’s too many parenthesis” and “you’re trying to use a library you didn’t add to the dependencies list” sail through.
So much so we fight tooth and nail to keep the cars, but once the street is transformed to something like above we absolutely love it and can’t see life any other way.
Things like this support my argument that conservatives are in a very fundamental way stupid. They don’t have good reasons. They just don’t want change for childish emotional reasons.
I feel sorry for you and hope you cna find more fulfilling work that will let you grow, but I dont’t know what the job market is like right now
Where I work, there’s really no emphasis on code quality or testing. There’s also like no mentorship or senior developers leading the way.
They hired a guy with 1-2 years of experience and I feel really bad for him. Not only is he learning very little, he’s learning actively bad patterns. No one is teaching him about automated testing. Code reviews are just “you skim it. Don’t spend more than 30 minutes”.
Management of course loves LLMs and wants more usage.
That’ll be easy XP once you’ve cleared the depths!
I think I opened one of those in zot once and deeply regretted the orb of fire party I found.
Yeah, it can be hard, but many things worth doing are hard. If you start with the bare minimum, the other person’s first impression of you is that you half-assed it. Would you be extra interested in someone who’s too half assed to even read your profile?
Put in the hard work. If you don’t have the energy, don’t use the apps. Half-assing it is just going to make you unhappy.
Thinking about my friend group, about half the people met their long term partners on dating apps. The other half is a mix of work and large social groups (eg: people who all go to certain kinds of music festivals)
I guess it varies by age and region.
While meeting partners through personal networks is still the most common kind of introduction, about one-in-ten partnered adults (12%) say they met their partner online. About a third (32%) of adults who are married, living with a partner or are in a committed relationship say friends and family helped them find their match. Smaller shares say they met through work (18%), through school (17%), online (12%), at a bar or restaurant (8%), at a place of worship (5%) or somewhere else (8%).
Some other sources I’m seeing say it’s as high as 60% of couples met online.
I live in NYC. I live here in large part because I don’t need a car to live here.
I walk for most daily needs. There’s also abundant bus and subway options. I would bike more, but one bad accident has me scared to ride with traffic again)
Maybe housing is more expensive, but sometimes you get what you pay for.
I think dating apps are mostly used for hookups
This isn’t especially true. Maybe Feeld and Tinder are less “serious”, but the idea of dating apps is mainstream enough that you find all sorts of people and goals.
The capitalism and for-profit nature does make them all kind of suck, though
The top of the funnel I could see an argument for not putting a lot of thought in. You’re just trying to get a pool of potential matches. (The apps are cruel for making you pay for this and not just giving you the list up front)
But once you do have a match, you have to put in some effort to stand out. A lot of people get a match and all they write is “hey”, and then they go right into the trash. Why would I engage with someone who just wrote “hey” when I could instead talk to someone who read my profile and said something personalized?
Also swiping yes on everyone might do strange things to their recommendation algorithm. Unfortunately that’s a black box, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that puts you in some sort of chum bucket shadow ban situation.
And also, yeah, making you pay for basic filters is a trashy design. Match group should be broken up.
On the one hand, this might help fence sitters that are like “there’s no content there”.
On the other, I just don’t personally care for a stream of random images like Instagram et al do.