🅸 🅰🅼 🆃🅷🅴 🅻🅰🆆.
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My problem is that I absolutely loath gardening. I love the gardens; I hate the upkeep. Weeding, tending, watering, repotting, fertilizing, pruning… I’d rather clean toilets. It’s so hard on my back, I’m miserable being outside when it’s hot or humid, and we don’t control the weather.
Someone’s taking care of all that. It’s lovely… if it’s someone else.
The Paradox of Tolerance says intolerance must not be tolerated.
Crush them. Brutally, if necessary.
Because people fear having their culture and race replaced by immigrants. Even if they’re not overtly racist, few people wish to become a minority in “their own country.”
The US is famously a melting pot, and yet we still have a bunch of descendants of white immigrants from Europe who fear that South Americans will take over; that Mexican culture will replace good old-fashioned hodge-podge Western European culture. That their language will become less dominant. That they’ll find themselves strangers in their own country.
It’s usually an indistinct fear. It seems obvious from the verbiage in the dog-whistles, but white European immigrant descendants don’t want to become second-class.
Now, if we treated our own minorities well, they wouldn’t be so afraid. They wouldn’t be afraid that they’d be the ones with Hispanic cops kneeling on their necks; or that Hispanic immigrants would be living in giant homes and they’d themselves be the ones having to eak out a living as seasonal workers.
I think it’s not despicable to want to preserve your cultural heritage, your cultural language, and to have your country legislated with the values you grew up with; but people react poorly when they think it’s happening.
What I most despise in the Republicans in the US is that they’re advocating for preserving cultural values that never existed broadly in the US. The closest subculture to what they’re pushing is a return to the Confederate South: religion, and white supremacy. The Confederates got their asses handed to them, but the racist fuckers never gave up their values, most most Americans are blind to what their real agenda is. And they’ve been good insurgents, cleverly taking advantage of weak areas in our democracy to return power to a minority: themselves. It’s been said and it’s true: if America was a true democracy and we selected leaders by popular vote, no Republican under their current platform would ever be president again.
Anyway, getting back to your question: immigrants bring their own culture with them, and very few completely abandon it and adopt the culture and language of their new country. This dilutes the host country’s native culture, and people are afraid of that. In the US, it’s the highest form of hypocrisy, because our native culture displaced the indigenous culture, and now we’re afraid of someone else doing the same to us.
It’s the angle. Can you hold your weight with your arms straight out to the sides? Sure, you can do push-ups, but can you do this?
or this?
Most people can’t.
That’s not how I meant it.
There’s a cultural value in virginity in girls. It’s pretty common across cultures: for marriage, virgin women are more desirable than non-virgins. It’s biased; the virginity only increases value for girls, and it probably stems from men wanting to be sure than any prodigy are actually theirs. Women can be nearly 100% sure a kid they have is theirs (not quite 100%, as there’s a brief period when a channeling swap could conceivably be made), but the men can never be certain. The best odds you have is to get yourself a virgin. So female virginity has been valued through history (by men), and I think this is where the fetish of having sex with virgins comes from.
That’s what I’m taking about. I’ve never understood the appeal of “being a girl’s/boy’s first.”
I have never, ever, understood the appeal of virginity. Who prefers someone who is uncomfortable, awkward, and doesn’t have any experience?
This has always baffled me. This is one reason why I think sex workers should hold a high status in society: they provide an valuable service in training the uninitiated and unskilled. It’s like taking tennis lessons, and all your future partners should be grateful for their lessons.
Man I hope there’s a brace across his back, because a human’s arms are not strong enough to overcome that much resistance.
But it there were a sturdy brace, that looks like almost enough resistance to keep him from dying, if he can keep from tumbling. Which he probably can’t.
Yeah, that guy’s best outcome is a lot of broken bones.
Yeah, it’d have to be a Lemmy design change, and then all of the many clients would have to implement it… momentum is a powerful force in the software world, and difficult and dangerous to overcome. Look at the fiasco of Python 3; that was a cock-up of epic proportions. Lemmy’s got enough users and clients now that changes have to be made extremely carefully.
In Mint? That’s good to know, thanks. As long as it’s fairly reliable; I don’t want to be trying to remotely debug a computer that won’t boot because of a middle-of-the-night update.
which is what I’d wager many think of when you say “the Internet”
I wager you’d be right, but most people are wrong.
I’m saying that everything is built on foundations that are fundamentally English and American, and this influenced even Berners-Lees’s creation. HTTP and HTML were fundamentally ASCII. DNS and the WWW eventually evolved broader encoding support, but it’s clearly tacked-on and awkward. All you need to do is look at URL encoding rules as proof.
I’m not saying it’s right; I’m just saying there consequences of an English, American-centric design of what underlies all computer technology today is evident at all higher levels, no matter how hard we try to mask them.
I had a hard time getting into Outer Worlds. I’ll try it again, eventually; I may like it more the next time.
They need a “follow accounts” button here. Like if a reporter used
Thank you!
And: dude! I have totally thought the same thing! It’s so weird that Mastodon has follow-accounts, but no communities; Lemmy has join-communities but no follow-accounts; and they’re both ActivityPub. You’d think that would be a no-brainer feature, right?
Yeah, especially boomers, which is what my dad is. My generation will be a little more demanding; millenials are the first “computer” generation, who grew up with them. Gen Z had computers since they were infants. That’s going to be interesting.
Yes, but:
I think most non-Southerners’ exposure to it is in media, where it’s almost always racist in context. There’s a surprising amount of subtly in Southern social interactions that I think it’s missing from most of the US. Sure, Midwesterners are known for raising passive-aggressiveness to an art form, but you recognize it no matter where you’re from.
The subtly in social interactions in the South are truly exceptional, hard to get a handle on, and unmatched anywhere else in the US - IMHO. Southerners have as many ways of being condescending as Eskimos have words for snow.
Is that phrase still acceptable, or is the Eskimo/snow comment now not PC? Is it still OK to use the term “Eskimo?” If the Eskimo thing is offensive, I sincerely apologize. An alternative would be “as North-westerners have words for rain,” but I don’t know if that’s as widely understood an idiom.
So, I had an experience recently that has changed how I think about this topic.
A few years ago, I gave my dad a laptop that I wasn’t using anymore. It wasn’t that old; I’d just gotten a newer one. I do not have Windows; never have, never will, so the laptop had Arch (probably) on it, which was going to be too much for dad, so I wiped it and put Linux Mint on it.
I got the occasional call from dad; he got a new (to him, probably used) printer and didn’t know how to set it up, but mostly he just used it and didn’t seen to have any problem with it.
OK, so about a month ago, he calls and says he broke the laptop and the keyboard didn’t work; a while back, with help from a church friend, he’d replaced the battery, but had missed a screw, had hot-glued something and gotten glue in one of the USB ports… I didn’t even want to know what all he’d done, but dad’s from a jerry-rig generation. Anyway, he’d missed a screw or something, and something was rattling around on there and one day the keyboard stopped responding.
So dad goes out and buys a refurbished laptop, and calls me and asks what he needs to do to migrate over. The laptop came with a fresh Windows install - 10, or 11; I don’t know. So I tell him, I can help him get any data off the old computer, but he needs to decide whether he wants to switch to Windows; now’s his chance.
Dad’s 80. He barely grasps computer concepts - hardware, he’ll mess around with, but software… for example, that version of Mint uses the same background for the session manager as the desktop, by default, and so he thinks they’re the same thing - it’s just sometimes it makes him log in. So given a choice to go Windows, he says he wants to stay with Linux because that’s what he’s familiar with. I’d like to point it here that he often forgets the name “Linux”; he just knows it isn’t Windows.
Deep breath - we’re a 4-hour flight apart - we get a USB keyboard hooked up to the old laptop, he orders a USB stick from Amazon, and we download the latest Mint iso; the next day when the USB stick arrives I walk him through burning the image; booting the new laptop into the BIOS; changing the boot order; and eventually, booting into the Linux Mint install image. We get connected to the WiFi no problem, open the installer from the desktop icon, and then have some debate about dual boot. He says he’s probably never going to use Windows, and dual boot makes things a little more iffy, so he picks the easy route and just wipes the drive and installs Mint.
The install process goes smoothly; he asked the occasional question about, e.g. the keyboard layout question, but mostly we chat while he watches the progress bar. We’re doing this over the phone, no video conference, so I’m mostly just listening to him describe what he’s doing and answering questions like, “it’s asking me for a name for the computer - what should i put in?” That’s done, we reboot, change the BIOS setting back (could have just left that one), reboot again with the USB stick out - and he’s back in Mint.
I send him some instructions over email about setting up a Firefox sync account, getting prepped for a Wireguard install (because, if I’m doing family tech support, I wasn’t to be able to remote log in over VPN), that sort of stuff. Things he can do download or manage without me, to prep for the next stage.
OK, some weeks go by without me hearing from him, and he calls yesterday for help with “completing the migration.” And here’s where I start to change my view on this. I find that he’s followed the instructions for Sync and that all his browser stuff successfully came over. That’s 90% of what he’s wants. I start what I think it’s the final configuration steps: setting up the printer, and he says, we don’t need to, it’s been working since we did the install. He must have configured it himself at some point. We unzip his old /home, I show him the software manager and how he can find and install stuff, we get Zoom installed and make sure the webcam, mic, and speakers work… and I decide to not fuss with getting a VPN into his laptop because everything is just working.
My 80 y/o dad bought some random-ass refurbished laptop, and aside from helping him burn the iso and get the new laptop to boot from it… I did nothing. I mean, I provided some guidance for his username, the laptop name, setting the time zone during install; but aside from the iso burning and some trouble we had even getting to the BIOS and then figuring out the right boot sequence, he could have done this all himself. All of the hardware worked; he either added the printer himself and forgot, or Mint did it for him. I was certain we’d have trouble with the WiFi chip (may you be sent to the hell of being boiled alive, Broadcom), or the printer, or… something. But no. It all Just Worked™.
Seriously. Except that the BIOS boot order makes things extremely challenging for newbies, and burning boot images onto a USB stick isn’t trivial (in retrospect, I should have just told him to buy an install stick from Mint; sorry, Mint), Linux has just worked. For a guy who isn’t clear on the difference between Firefox and the OS.
I think it was the WiFi chip and the printer that caused my mental shift; these have been the traditional pain points. Maybe we got lucky. But I think the real reason is that some Linux distros have just gotten really good for novices.
The internet originated in the US. All of the original specs were made by Americans. ASCII is literally built around English, and ASCII is at the foundation of every single core technology of the internet. Hell, even when they designed UTF-8, it was still Western-centric; to this day it gets some push back from the Orient, because it’s makes things harder for them - I think there was a fight to standardize on UTF-16 because it was easier for Asian languages; I may not be remembering the details correctly, but there’s some legitimate beef some Asian languages have with UTF-8.
Now, obviously, more non-Americans are on the internet than Americans, but it’s the same argument as Critical Race Theory: when the entire foundation and infrastructure is built on a bias, that bias influences all interactions even when isn’t overtly obvious, or even intentional.
It’s always demeaning. Calling a full-grown man of any race “boy” is belittling them. Yes, there’s a special racist association, but it’s been used as much on white men. The female equivalent might be “little girl.”
“What do you think you’re doing, little girl?”
It might have the same effect as simply “girl” if said the right way, but “girl” has been more normalized and sexualized, so it’s a little different.
Anyway, the terms are belittling, and therefore demeaning, regardless of race. The point of using them is to position yourself over that person, as a parent over a child; it’s shorthand for saying they are beneath you.
“… that meltdown, boy.”
You’re doing it, I say, you’re doing it wrong, boy.
@best_username_ever mentioned Semantic Versioning. It’s an actual spec. Not everyone follows it, and it doesn’t make sense for a lot of things, and far too many people are dogmatic about it. But it’s a good thing to read, and it’s not long.
A related, but not tightly coupled, spec is Changelog. Used together, and used correctly these two are nice for users.