As someone a bit older than most on these sites, I can say with confidence, if you have any kind of solid plan for your life you’re going to get royally fucked over.
If you want any chance of happiness in your life, you have to ride a balance between working towards goals, but also learning to love and appreciate wherever life takes you, even if it’s in the opposite direction. Because the harder you try to fit into an image you make for yourself, the harder life pushes back.
I know all this sounds like a wood-etching in grandma’s kitchen, but it’s 100% true and if you don’t get it now… you will.
I was trying to explain this to my son yesterday. He’s in middle school but already has a career path picked out. I was like, “dude, I didn’t even know my current job existed until a decade after I graduated from college, you don’t have to have this all figured out yet. Plans change, life gets in the way. Just go with it.”
Those kinds of things, along with work-interviews and small-talk at gatherings and why your boss talks to you at the urinal, because it’s far more about viewing how someone presents themselves and conforms to societal expectations.
Not necessarily in negative, overbearing way, often this is literally how we appraise people all day, all the time. This is how we keep from inviting psychotic strangers into our tribe who may cause damage. Just seeing if they can conduct themselves as we expect so we know they are likely to hold to their end of our social contracts.
(All of this is also why we’re such a racist and scared species, which is also what inspires college self-intros.)
As someone a bit older than most on these sites, I can say with confidence, if you have any kind of solid plan for your life you’re going to get royally fucked over.
If you want any chance of happiness in your life, you have to ride a balance between working towards goals, but also learning to love and appreciate wherever life takes you, even if it’s in the opposite direction. Because the harder you try to fit into an image you make for yourself, the harder life pushes back.
I know all this sounds like a wood-etching in grandma’s kitchen, but it’s 100% true and if you don’t get it now… you will.
I was trying to explain this to my son yesterday. He’s in middle school but already has a career path picked out. I was like, “dude, I didn’t even know my current job existed until a decade after I graduated from college, you don’t have to have this all figured out yet. Plans change, life gets in the way. Just go with it.”
It is something I am learning myself, but without the experience to back it up, it’s really hard to understand truly.
I wonder why self-intro in college application asks so much about life plan, when it is not remotely how we should live.
Those kinds of things, along with work-interviews and small-talk at gatherings and why your boss talks to you at the urinal, because it’s far more about viewing how someone presents themselves and conforms to societal expectations.
Not necessarily in negative, overbearing way, often this is literally how we appraise people all day, all the time. This is how we keep from inviting psychotic strangers into our tribe who may cause damage. Just seeing if they can conduct themselves as we expect so we know they are likely to hold to their end of our social contracts.
(All of this is also why we’re such a racist and scared species, which is also what inspires college self-intros.)
Yeah, but Zoldyck was talking about doing something Vs doing nothing. And that doing something random is fine as long as it is something.