I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me

  • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    wisdom is often wasted on the elderly. youth is fleeting as are most the mistakes you will make in life at this point.

    the following advice is fitting unless you’re doing either of these two things:

    1. making babies
    2. taking a life (especially your own)

    Live the three truths

    1. you will always make mistakes
    2. you will always hurt those you love
    3. you will always have regrets.

    the older you get the harder it is to recover from these truths. Live your life to your requirements. By the time you’re closing in on your 30s, you should start to settle down and find yourself a quiet place to build your life for when you’re in your 50s or 60s.

    in your 30s seek out happiness and contentment. this will be your foundation to accept your regrets and mistakes. own the mistakes you made along the way, accept them like you would a bruise or blemish on your body. in time they will heal, if only you accept them and move on.

    in your 40s harvest your happiness and contentment. accept there are things you cannot do not because you haven’t or couldn’t but because you shouldn’t.

    in your 50s store your happiness and contentment with the knowledge that nobody can take it from you, it’s yours and yours alone.

    60+ feed your soul from your stores, using the memories you made along the way. depending on the life you have led, share in new memories with those around you. celebrate their successes as your successes.

    if you’re lucky you will build lasting relationships along the way and will have many fond memories. you will inevitability have bad memories as well, but such is life.

    personally I lost every single friend I have ever had. I never really recovered from it and now I have no friends. It’s one of many regrets, but I never let it spoil my happiness and contentment. I find fulfillment by other means like hobbies, crafting, and family.

    I never wanted to be married or have kids, but it feels as if what you think is important today changes by tomorrow. don’t fight it, because you’ll only be fighting yourself.

    life is full of surprises, learn to roll with the punches and adapt to the world. if you don’t, life will fucking kill you.