Idk why lol, sad music ironically makes me feel better. It’s kinda like crying… lets out the endorphins.
Yes. Blues exists for pretty much that reason.
Every once in a while I need a good cry session just to get it out of my system and feel better. I have a playlist titled “Cry Baby”.
After I wash my face, I’ll listen to some dance and techno while I have my frozen gel mask over my swollen eyes.
Like most people, music moves me…
For me it’s always more on the sad side. When I’m down, and I start to listen to my kind of sad music, it mostly starts to go down the real bad spirale, which kinda means… well, selfharm.
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Sometimes. There are moments while doing so that I feel heard or related to. Other times, it’s just to let it out.
I think the word you’re looking for is ‘commiserating’?
Misery loves company. Helps to know other people have been through sad times too.
I tried doing that when my first girlfriend broke up with me back in the day and it had mixed results… It felt a tad performative and it kinda took me out of it, lol. But my wife does it! I guess it’s always better to process the emotion and music helps?
All the time. In general, the music I listen to always matches my mood. I listen to happy music when I’m happy and sad music when I’m sad. It’s like a form of catharsis.
Listening to happy things when you’re sad can feel like the music invalidates your feelings, and that can make you feel worse. Sad music serves exactly the purpose you describe: to cry, even when you have no tears left, and let go of all the bad stuff inside you.
Sometimes I am sad but I don’t really feel sad, or feel sad enough… Music helps me feel the feelings I already have, but have a hard time feeling. Some of those feelings are sad and the sad ones are just as important to feel. I guess what I’m describing is catharsis.
I do this as well but it’s like a “deepening” of being sad. Like I’m thinking “Fuck it, if I’m gonna feel sad right now then let’s feel fucking sad.” Lol
Yes, I tend to roll that way. Then again, when you’re a depressed, suicidal priest, it can also work the other way…
There’s one song that immediately makes me cry with the first lyric. I save it for just that occasion, when I know I need to get it out. It helps so much.
sometimes. when your a little sad its nice to get something cheery but when your real sad sometimes the only way out is through.
Yeah, but I like to try to use it to move in a certain direction emotionally. Like, instead of pure sad, I’ll put on something sad and wistful to move a little in that direction, or sad and angry to shift a little that way, depending on my current needs.
Like, this is sad and wistful, with a touch of determination:
This is sad and angry:
This helps avoid wallowing in the pure sad feeling, which I don’t really like.
If the music helps you process the emotion then generally you’ll feel better afterword. That’s just how it works.
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