Say if someone came up to you and asked “If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?” could you answer them without needing think or is that not something most people give a thought to?
Hi. Trans person here.
This is how The Big Questions start. Good luck.
If you’re thinking about what your life would be as the opposite gender, then you’re already thought about gender more than most. Doesn’t necessarily mean you’re any flavor of trans, but generally this isn’t something cis folk think about.
No one can tell you who you are, especially an internet stranger. But if OP or anyone else has an answer to what name you would’ve had as the other sex, than this link is massively helpful in sorting through these thoughts.
Very interesting read even as a cis person. I don’t understand how anyone can read this and then believe any of the propaganda about trans people.
Good luck with your transition!!!
I have an agendered one but I’m also legit considering changing it.
Reading this made me think of such a gender-neutral name and honesty I’m digging it. Close to my real name, works in multiple languages.
No.
Can’t say I’ve ever thought about it as a cis male. It’s pretty easy to come up with the best sounding derivative though. If you feel that this may be an important choice for you it may benefit you to explore further and perhaps talk to a therapist who has helped others with dysphoria.
It may also help to add that I’ve gone through phases of not liking my name. It’s not a “normal” name and people very often mishear it as something else. Through this I’ve only ever considered other cis male centric names, also derivatives of my actual name.
Nope, I don’t have one.
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My name is not gendered, so I’m good to go.
I’d have no idea. Yeah, there’s a feminine name I could extract from my current name, but my first impression is that I wouldn’t want that. I have no idea.
Good luck with your journey!
My name has an obvious feminine version, and I like it enough too.
I’ve personally known only very few women with that name, (it’s not uncommon) but the ones I did were gorgeous, so I’d happily put myself in that club if I woke up different tomorrow.
My middle name is already unisex too, so my initials wouldn’t even change lol.
My mum said if I were a boy, my name would’ve been Daniel
Dazza in Australia.
I’m not really sure how that works as a trans person lol
I’m gonna go with no.
I have a gender-neutral name, so I’d probably stick with the same one.
Same. My parents thought of everything
Actually, I have one at the ready, mostly because my dad used to call my brother and I by our feminine equivalent names to bug us as children (different time, young army guy).
Have not given thought to preferred choices, though, just that one.
I was named after my dad while my first sister born after me was named after my mom. (My parents would not have won any points for originality.)
If I’d been assigned female at birth I would probably have been named after my mom instead, and given the name my sister ended up with rather than just the feminine version of my present name.
As it stands I’m a cis man, but if I suddenly needed to change to a woman’s name for some reason my name has a common feminine variant I’d use.
