• Garbagio@lemmy.zip
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    4 days ago

    Yeah that’s called vibing. And nah you’re good lol, no one deserves a relationship. There are complete assholes that understand what I’ve said and don’t have a partner; I’d say they’re good. Being unfulfilled is part of life, and any adult is well aware of that, and is good regardless.

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      no one deserves a relationship

      Alienation drives people nuts. Idk about “deserves”, but everyone ultimately needs them to function normally. Folks who are shut up and hooked into the YouTube Vomit Cannon or the Twitter Racism Space to get all their socializing are the ones that burn out, melt down, or become Elon Musk.

      Being unfulfilled is part of life, and any adult is well aware of that, and is good regardless.

      Being unfulfilled creates motivation to change oneself. But being trapped in a sense of unfulfillment is toxic to the point of madness. If you’ve got no release for your anxiety or depression, you turn inward in a way that can get very dark over time.

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        So note a few things:

        1. Alienation does drive people nuts. That has nothing to do with romantic fulfilment.
        2. Socializing isn’t romantic fulfilment, and it’s a little funny of you to bring up the former as a defense to why anyone deserves the latter
        3. Complaining about being trapped in a sense of unfulfillment is a non sequitur. What are you talking about? If you’re so unfulfilled romantically that you’d rather kill yourself than treat women as equals? Sorry not sorry, some cases of terminal unfulfillment are fine, if the only cause is being a shit person. Be better.
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          Alienation does drive people nuts.

          Great news for anyone in solitary confinement.

          Socializing isn’t romantic fulfilment

          It is a necessary precondition

          Complaining about being trapped in a sense of unfulfillment is a non sequitur.

          No it isn’t