My mom said shit like: “[some random friend/relative] is only 21 and already graduated college and gotten married and have a kid (which means presumably they have their own separate house), why are y’all [directed at me and my older brother] such failures?”
I read somewhere that like 60 percent of adults under 30 still live with their parents. You should ask your mom how her generation screwed up everything for their kids.
(okay jokes aside, I was told my generation was “supposed” to have it better than theirs… in terms of like them growing up in Mainland China 60s/70s vs me having the opportunity to emigrate during childhood… but maybe I just got very bad luck and mom got extremely lucky in terms of “being successful in life”)
Two of my kids live with us, between 25 and 30. Our third (in that age range) lives with his biological dad. Though part of that is for health reasons.
Yeah 2 of ours plus the girlfriend of one of my daughters live with us. The couple both have pretty good jobs and are saving up to get a place in the summer, then we will be down to one, the last in a very long line of children. I’m not in a hurry, my mom kicked me out at 17 and it really set me back in life. Have been through this several times with mine, they do leave when they want to, and eventually they want to. Having time to work & not pay rent helps with getting started on adult life.
Normal graduation is around 21 to 23, assuming you went immediately from high school to college (at least in the states)
So that means they basically got married during college, which sounds crazy to me, and somehow can afford a house at less than a year’s worth of a normal job schedule, assuming they started right when they graduated.
Idk why but in my parent’s social circle… everyone seem to be some type of successful small bussiness owner and own several rentals or a bunch of stocks or like doing international trade or whatever…
Like one of my aunts owns a 4 family home in Brooklyn and lease two of them out and combined two units on the 1st floor into 1… her husband is a college professor and has a real estate license… and also a bunch of trade licenses…
(this is not the “married at 21 and have kids” story, its a different story)
they have so much video game consoles at home…
Their kids constantly go to some PAID afterschool thing and weekend school… (from what I heard)
And I assume they also had to go to Chinese school since I’ve been told they learned Chinese? (lolol I didn’t have to cuz I actually went to 2nd grade in China so I already knew how to read)
Like… literally the stereotypical Asian family… BUT THEY HAVE VIDEO GAME CONSOLES AND I DIDNT EVEN GET ANY WTF MOM?
So I was told this cousin, around my age, apparantly went to go on to do international bussiness and “made millions of dollars” like early 20s…
Nah I think they’re exaggerating…
Their mom and dad (the mom is my aunt, who is my dad’s sister) owns real estate I think…
I mean they used to have one in Philly and they asked my dad and mom to do property management for them… but later they sold it cuz its was too far and too much of a hassle…
And my mom also have another friend (old classmate? or like and old teacher she used to have?) in Philly that owns like 5 rentals…
Like my parents social circle is so weird…
like everyone is just “middle class” and if you are just living paycheck to paycheck, you lose “face”…
Like I think the vast majority of Chinese immigrants own their homes…
So not owning a home is actually considered a failure lol…
They could have gotten a two-year certificate from a trade school or one of the few associates degrees that is sufficient to get yourself a job in the field.
My older brother is 28 and still with us… 🤷♂️
My mom said shit like: “[some random friend/relative] is only 21 and already graduated college and gotten married and have a kid (which means presumably they have their own separate house), why are y’all [directed at me and my older brother] such failures?”
(I’m Chinese American btw)
I read somewhere that like 60 percent of adults under 30 still live with their parents. You should ask your mom how her generation screwed up everything for their kids.
Her generation…
Well I mean…
Mao’s little red books intensifies
(okay jokes aside, I was told my generation was “supposed” to have it better than theirs… in terms of like them growing up in Mainland China 60s/70s vs me having the opportunity to emigrate during childhood… but maybe I just got very bad luck and mom got extremely lucky in terms of “being successful in life”)
Two of my kids live with us, between 25 and 30. Our third (in that age range) lives with his biological dad. Though part of that is for health reasons.
Yeah 2 of ours plus the girlfriend of one of my daughters live with us. The couple both have pretty good jobs and are saving up to get a place in the summer, then we will be down to one, the last in a very long line of children. I’m not in a hurry, my mom kicked me out at 17 and it really set me back in life. Have been through this several times with mine, they do leave when they want to, and eventually they want to. Having time to work & not pay rent helps with getting started on adult life.
Graduating and marriage at 21 is crazy
Normal graduation is around 21 to 23, assuming you went immediately from high school to college (at least in the states)
So that means they basically got married during college, which sounds crazy to me, and somehow can afford a house at less than a year’s worth of a normal job schedule, assuming they started right when they graduated.
Idk why but in my parent’s social circle… everyone seem to be some type of successful small bussiness owner and own several rentals or a bunch of stocks or like doing international trade or whatever…
Like one of my aunts owns a 4 family home in Brooklyn and lease two of them out and combined two units on the 1st floor into 1… her husband is a college professor and has a real estate license… and also a bunch of trade licenses…
(this is not the “married at 21 and have kids” story, its a different story)
they have so much video game consoles at home…
Their kids constantly go to some PAID afterschool thing and weekend school… (from what I heard)
And I assume they also had to go to Chinese school since I’ve been told they learned Chinese? (lolol I didn’t have to cuz I actually went to 2nd grade in China so I already knew how to read)
Like… literally the stereotypical Asian family… BUT THEY HAVE VIDEO GAME CONSOLES AND I DIDNT EVEN GET ANY WTF MOM?
So I was told this cousin, around my age, apparantly went to go on to do international bussiness and “made millions of dollars” like early 20s…
Nah I think they’re exaggerating…
Their mom and dad (the mom is my aunt, who is my dad’s sister) owns real estate I think…
I mean they used to have one in Philly and they asked my dad and mom to do property management for them… but later they sold it cuz its was too far and too much of a hassle…
And my mom also have another friend (old classmate? or like and old teacher she used to have?) in Philly that owns like 5 rentals…
Like my parents social circle is so weird…
like everyone is just “middle class” and if you are just living paycheck to paycheck, you lose “face”…
Like I think the vast majority of Chinese immigrants own their homes…
So not owning a home is actually considered a failure lol…
They could have gotten a two-year certificate from a trade school or one of the few associates degrees that is sufficient to get yourself a job in the field.