Especially getting older, I do this a lot more. Looking at things I want to do that ive been putting off, for example. If I have the money, I’m doing it. Now I’m not going full Yes Man on it, but I much prefer living like this. You could very easily die tomorrow so you should do everything you want to while you can, basically.
A lot of people I know seem to lock themselves in this invisible box of “I can’t” when they totally can. Obviously, finances is all of our biggest limiting factor in this. But even a lot of wealthier people just dont ever really do what they really want, either out of fear of being judged or failing etc. And then, boom, brain cancer, you’re dead in 6 months.
So I say, live it up!!
Now this doesnt mean blow your life savings on cocaine, unless thats really your thing.
Every few months I will treat myself to something I want. Then take a break and save up money.
I love that dopamine hit from getting something new. But then again, most of the stuff I buy are tools or something that makes me do MORE work. I don’t like spending $1000 on a vacation, I just don’t enjoy them like other people do.
On one hand, planning for the future makes sense.
On the other, I don’t want to be the richest man in the graveyard.
It’s always a balancing act.
I’m being careful. Careful with my health, and careful with my money. Because, I don’t want to be a burden to my son, and I want to leave him my house, when I die. It’s probably the only way he’ll become a homeowner, the way things are now.
I’d love to blow a big chunk of money traveling, but I have priorities, and I can’t afford both.
So, yeah, I could, but I won’t.
That bitofarambler guy suggests TEFL cert, you can teach part time, live extremely affordably, travel, and have money left over. That’s very admirable and unselfish of you. I appreciate that.
You could do both if you travel cheaply. Exploring keeps you healthy, consider it medicine that you need.
I had a tattoo I wanted for years. I was like well it’s going to be really expensive and I shouldn’t spend the money on it while I have these expenses coming up. A few years and a divorce later, well, I really want this tattoo, but I have student loans and a car loan and it would be really irresponsible of me to pay for a tattoo instead of putting extra money towards those. Yes I could work a bunch of OT to pay for it, but if I work a bunch of OT then I should take that money and put it towards becoming debt free. Maybe when I pay them off I’ll get it. Then it hit me that I won’t have my loans paid off until I’m in my 40s, even at the rate I’m going (making double payments every month).
Tattoo was finished yesterday. I could have paid off one of my loans with what it cost, but fuck it’s absolutely beautiful. The artist is a painter who tattoos and it legit looks like a painting on my skin.
YES. If you’re gonna spend a lot on a tattoo, absolutely pay more for quality. Seeing a poorly done tattoo just makes me sad. I think you’ll have that ugly thing on your skin for the rest of your life. A good tattoo is always worth it.
My wife had 2 strokes last year. I am quitting my job of 22 years next month mostly due to the company’s work from home policy.
I know not everyone is in a position to just up and quit their jobs, especially this day and age, but life is short.
It’s crazy that the company won’t allow this. If it doesn’t effect your work, then the only reason to not approve it seems to be because the health and care for your wife should come second to the company. That’s pretty shit and it sucks that was a choice you had to make.
I have some pretty significant, incurable and somewhat untreatable health issues, so a lot. I cannot express how glad and relieved I am that I lived so much in my 20s before my health crashed.
Live while you can.
I’m sorry to hear that 😕 its good you did what you could. Many could not say that and would regret.
This makes me feel like quitting my job altogether…but I like making decent money and not having to worry about it. But some days 9 hours at a desk is just too long.
Maybe don’t quit, but plan how to make the best use out of that job for you. That could mean staying there to accumulate time off or to save money. It could mean change jobs so you can do that. It could mean taking off time between jobs.
However you can do it, live while you can. Even if you don’t end up like I do, you will not have the same youthful vigor 10 years from now that you do now. It is your life. Don’t waste it.
Yeah, I do actually like my job, it just gets boring at times and I’m not really being utilized to my full potential so it makes me feel a bit like I’m wasting time. I really can’t complain though.
Its one of those things where if I quit my job to follow my dreams I’d probably be depressed and have no money anyways. But at least from this side of the glass I can imagine that IF I quit I would have done something cool. But then I quit dreaming and still have money. Unfortunate but its smarter this way I feel. I can still pretend after work and weekends.
Thats the plan ! I did at least start working out too so I can (if lucky) still have some.strength and energy later in life. And if not I’ll know it wasnt something I could have prevented.
increasingly more as time passes. I don’t think its as much getting old as the social contract increasingly breaking down. I mean even if you don’t die does the future look like its going to get any better with more opportunities. Not for where im standing.
That was my excuse to keep smoking. Having kids changed that.
Well I’d say thats not the healthy way to look at it. Not a total yolo, more like I’m gonna do what I want and enjoy while not caring what others think . you definitely won’t enjoy smoking or drinking in excess down the road.
“But what if I don’t?” is the immediate counter-thought. I literally cannot stop myself from thinking this.
Then youll make it work.
I’m also not saying to be dumb with it. Try to save and plan for the future as best you possibly can, but I k ow that doesn’t work for many.
I’m not saying to spend $500 on a ps4 today when rent is due tomorrow and that was the last of the cash.
Then youll make it work.
Ha. Have you met me? I have, you might say somewhat frequently, and I don’t like the odds of that working out.
I convinced myself decades ago that I’d be dead by 50. Welp. Every year is a bonus year now!
Every time I deploy scripts to live databases.
Never, I’m trapped in my job and life. Everytime I get the opportunity to do something I want, something always takes it away from me. Whether it’s work, money, or life in general. I want to run away and experience life, experience the world, but I can’t.
What about not fully running away and abandoning everything , but just doing things little steps at a time?
If you have your health, you really can do anything. Even if its just a weekend drive a few hours away, that’s still something. You dont need to go clear accross the world in one go
It’ll be nice to do that. But, it’s only temporary. It’d be cool to run away forever, or even just for a month. Life has been sucky
Its not so much fuck it i could die in two years lets do what i want. Its more damn, i could die in two years, i need to ensure i take better of my body
Thats all good, we should eat healthy and exercise , but thats still not going to stop you from getting brain cancer etc.
Its really my thing
Well, I’m in that state right now, and I think I’m gonna be in it continuously until the biopsy results come back.
