In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.

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    Lol how to show your inexperience.

    When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and there’s no issue.

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    Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you’re way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.

    The typical person that’s bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn’t going to smell that bad.

    Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they’ll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.

    For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn’t stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.

    Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It’s far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.

    Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn’t have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.

    But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It’s not the default at all. A person’s diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.

    For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it’s not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it’s less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn’t really unpleasant tbh, just intense).

    And it’s not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.

    Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?

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      Wow this is some valuable information. It really puts things in a perspective. Thanks for sharing your experience!

      Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?

      I’ve had some bad experience.

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    This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.

    Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There’s unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who’s junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower

    Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you’re not comfortable with other people’s taint you’re just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it’s all taint

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      Absolutely this, there’s no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered … and I am so into that.

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      People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean.

      Um. I don’t think they’re surprised because you look and smell so clean. If you only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant, you stink and you’re nose blind.

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    Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.

    Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.

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      Well our ancestors didn’t wipe their asses and sometimes drank urine. Should we continue those practices, too?

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    This is such a bizarre post… OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help

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      I have no issues with intimacy. What does having sex with dirty people have to do with that?

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        I wouldn’t say terrified, but if the idea of having sex with somebody you like solicits such disgust and makes use terms like “tolerable” or “vomit inducing”, there’s definitely some issue with intimacy. It might also be lack of direct experience.

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          It’s not just having sex, it’s having sex with somebody when they’re dirty.

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    People didn’t even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.

    That said healthy people don’t get that bad usually.

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    I’m honestly confused by this. People smell nice when they smell like people, it takes a couple days for people to start smelling bad.

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    My ex-gf (RIP) (she’s not dead she just doesn’t like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea

    CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this

    Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that’s been caused? How do we know this isn’t hell? Maybe it doesn’t have to be for too much longer.

    If you can’t say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It’s so dark in here. We need your help still

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      Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while they’re still in hospital.

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    I don’t know you, but for me, pussy doesn’t start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash

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    Find an east asian partner, Koreans especially have been studied to genetically have no body odor in their sweat gland compared to others