I’m gay.
My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.
Half the time his homophobia doesn’t even make sense.
>Fishing show on TV in the living room
>Watching it with mom and dad
>Mom: "I don’t have the patience for that kind of stuff
>Me: “It doesn’t feel like too long when you’re out there”
>Dad: “Time flies when you’re a faggot.”
>Go to my room
It’s getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a fag.
Exactly why I never came out to my parents. I think they knew, since my stepfather would semi regularly tell me that if I came out as gay he would kick me out of the house.
Jokes on him, he’s dead now and I’m still bisexual.
He didn’t say he’d kick you out for coming out as Bi though. Legal loophole.
I was given a very specific (but non-inclusive) list of people I was not allowed to bring home. That included any and all women, naturally, but also included any and all men of any colour darker than germanic-european-white, and indeed any men of a religion other than young-earth-creationists.
Breaking any of these rules while still living in the house would have meant my expulsion from the house. I’d like to say my mom wouldn’t have allowed him to kick me out but I really don’t know.
Always found it offputting how often I hear about people’s step parents being somehow worse than their biological parent, and their biological parent being totally cool with it.
Not saying that’s your situation. Just something I thought about. Like my friend growing up had a cool mom and dad, but his step dad was the biggest asshole ever. And his mom was totally cool with it. Guy tried to break my ps3 cause we were playing COD and he had an unspoken rule of no M rated games in the house. And all the times he called me homophobic slurs, even though I’m not gay. His mom was great though, so it made no sense.
I wish I were gayer so I could use the “time flies” line.
Just drop that line as your catchphrase before tapdancing out of the room. It’d be incredible. :)
See, this is actually one of the rare times when violence is the answer.
One good kick to the nuts, and a “you ever fuck with me again, you’ll sing soprano”, and it’s going to back the guy down. It doesn’t have to even be super aggro, just casually roll up and do it, then say it calmly, and walk away.
Yes, assaulting people always works wonders.
No, but in very narrow circumstances, controlled violence to back down continued abuse does work wonders.
People will only bully and abuse people they think they can get away with it towards. I’m those cases, controlled violence is an effective tool because it draws a firm boundary and expresses the consequences for crossing it.
Someone behaving like the “dad” in the story posted is only doing it because they think they can get away with it. That kind of person is very likely to back the fuck off when the son backs them the fuck off. Remember, they’re already using the threat of violence in the posted scenario. The only realistic response to a threat of violence, when outside assistance via legal recourse isn’t available, is shutting them the fuck down hard and fast.
